I am starting to believe that there is no such thing as tragedy. There is only opportunity for growth, and should you accept it, the reward overcomes the sailing of the hardship.
I got off the phone with my brave parents in Mesa this evening. They gave me the daily update, Steph had another skin scraping surgery (this time in the facial area mostly) and Christian keeps looking better and better for a burn patient (keeping things in perspective). We have been told that Steph will likely look much different after her healing. That prospect is difficult for me to fully accept. It brings up so many questions I can only solve in due time. But something in my depths knows that it will be beautiful. She will be beautiful because she is beautiful.
I am left to wonder, what sacrifice would you go through personally to personally affect thousands of lives? Your beauty?
The heros of this story have been my rallying family. Each sister (blood and law) have assigned themselves days of the week to take over the children, laundry or meals. Niece and nephews are volunteering one of their weekend nights so that Lucy and Ric, Chup and I can go out on dates. Cousins show up every morning to walk Claire and Jane to school together and arrive after school to drop them (safely) home. Of course, these are all done with immense compassion, linking us all together and giving our relationships renewed purpose.
Neighbors have showed up with food, cereal and treats (never turned away). My friends greeted me first at the Balloon Launch and cried with me amongst the crowd. Steph and Christian's friends have created websites, sent packages to the kids and stepped up efforts for donations. I have decided to turn no one away, because I want to give anyone the opportunity to feel the good that comes from the serving. It's a story of begatting love.
And then there is this blogging world which has overwhelmed me and my family. Strangers who e-mail the most inspiring words (forgive me, I am a couple days behind on e-mails). Your comments on this blog have made Chup cry on several occasions. When I feel my heart starting to despair I have online access to inspiration. I love hearing about how you love my sister. (How could you not?) Family members feel the same way about your responses. Thank you for praying for someone you know through a blogspot. Please know, it does make a difference. Huge.
This Thursday has been declared by Design Mom as Nie Nie Day. There are many ways to celebrate, including hosting a silent auction via your blog comments. I saw tonight that there has been a massive response by bloggers and crafters to join in and raise money for the Recovery Fund. We love you and then we take a deep breath and love you some more. Same goes for all the wonderful fundraising going on all over the globe.
But most of all, as part of our LDS doctrine, we are fully aware of the sacredness of the soul. And we believe in a Father in Heaven who has a plan for our souls. There is something about walking through the valley of the shadow of death that reminds us how glorious it is to have a body and a spirit. And we look forward to the day when both will be inseparable.
Where is the tragedy here?
(Thanks to my oldest brother Coach Steve I will be auctioning off something in tribute to Christian's love of BYU Football on Thursday. They are not items that Nie would want really, but they are items that Nie would want Mr. Nielson to have!)
August 26, 2008
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«Oldest ‹Older 1 – 200 of 228 Newer› Newest»I am so incredibly sorry for what has happened. What an amazing family you have and how very loved those children are.
Thank you for sharing and good luck with everything you have ahead of you.
~Zak
I left my sister in the LDS hospital, not knowing if I'd ever see her again. She had been there for 2 months and in the process of enduring her stay there, fighting to get well, had weeks previous, lost her eyesight. I did see her again, just an hour before her passing. My husband and I took her two boys, 12 & 14 into our home during the times that her husband was away with his job as a pilot. Two years later, I still remind the boys, as their mother had said to them in the hospital...'the Lord prepared you for this.' There are so many blessings and treasured moments amidst tragedy and the Lord prepared the Nielson and Clark family for this too. It helps me so much to remember this in the good times and bad. Our blessings to you all!
Jane - with most families it is a tragedy that brings them togather but with the LDS faith our families all have such a strong closeness already and an abiding faith that no matter what Heavenly Father has a plan for us all.
I wish I were closer to bring a meal or offer support and hugs. Please know that I keep your sister and brother in my nightly prayers. I have put togather a nice patriotic lap quilt that I will be auctioning off on Nie Nie day. Please be sure to add my blog to your blog roll on that day as I haave very few visitors to my blog and I want to be able to get the most I can.
Take care - Barbara York
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"Life is full of surprises, full of ups and downs
And so to have a silver lining, first there must be a cloud"
I am so thankful fo rthe blessing that have come your way during this downpour. The Lord makes miracles happen all the time.
It is so good to hear how you have all pulled together to provide a safe harbor for the whole family.
perfect. beautiful.
thank you
When I first heard about the accident, I kept praying that her beauty would be spared. And as I did, I couldn't help but think I was being silly. And yet, I'm still praying for it. But, maybe one of the most important things about beauty is its layers, its depth, especially in someone like Stephanie who is beautiful in so many different ways.
*Delurking Alert*
Wow, what a ride. I read about your sister's accident Sunday, and have spent the days since reading her, and your blog from the very start. We live half a world apart, have different religious, political and life views - but we're still so alike in many ways. For whatever it's worth, I'll be reading, and praying, from afar.
This accident, along with so many other horrible things in the world right now, are actually helping me become a better person. A better mother, wife and friend. What a blessing that we do not know how long we have on this earth, and that we never know what the next day brings. If we want a full life, we must enjoy it now, today, this very minute.
I hope I have enough love in me to be felt all the way over in UT and AZ. If only every family could be as lucky as yours, the world would no doubt be a better place.
xo
Jennie
I shed tears of sorrow, gratitude, awe and pain. What special Spirits Stephanie and Christian are that our loving Heavenly Father could "bless" them with this immense trial. All of you.
You remind me that we can indeed overcome through our acceptance and diligence to endure faithfully.
I'm honored to participate in the Silent Auction. It helps heal the little piece of my heart that aches for you (collectively).
Constant Prayers.
Such amazing people you all are. What a great outlook you have on all of this. I am so happy to be a part of Nie Nie day!
I first learned about the crash through Peek-a-Booprints' blog. Now I'm seeing Nie's story on several blogs and I keep checking up on how she is doing. The blogging world truly is an amazing one.
I've joined in on the Etsy auction and will be doing a post about it on my blog later. I don't have 1000s of readers but I'll do my best to spread the word.
Some day Nie and Christian will be able to look at your blog. It will tell them about the days they missed, it will show them the pictures of their kids who will no doubt have changed by the time they wake up and it will show the love you have for them. The healing of their bodies is now the most important thing, but coming to terms with was has happened and how it has affected them will be much harder. It's good to know that they have such a loving family, who will love them no matter what.
Love,
Tania from Belgium
... and I cry.
I wish every family that suffered tradegy could have the wonderful family and world support Stephanie and Christian have. It is also wonderful of you to continue to share all of this with the world so people can step up open their hearts and be all that they can be. Take care.
As always, I'm uplifted by your your latest post, and so happy to hear of Stephanie's and Christian's progress.
The last few days, I've had a Stevie Wonder song on repeat that I love - Ribbon In The Sky. It's a song that is so beautiful, it literally makes me tear up sometimes. Today as I was listening to it, I suddenly thought of Stephanie and Christian's balloon launches, and all the pictures posted here, with ribbons tied and trailing the balloons containing wishes. I teared up again. The lyrics seem so appropriate to the situation, so I hope you don't mind me posting them here
Ribbon In The Sky
Oh so long for this night I've prayed
That a star would guide you my way
To share with me this special day
Where a ribbon's in the sky for our love
If allowed, may I touch your hand,
And if pleased, may I once again
So that you too will understand
There's a ribbon in the sky for our love.
This is not a coincidence,
And far more than a lucky chance
But what is that was always meant
Is a ribbon in the sky for our love.
Love, we can't lose with God on our side.
We'll find strength in each tear we cry.
From now on it will be you and I
And a ribbon in the sky, ribbon in the sky,
A ribbon in the sky for our love.
There's a ribbon in the sky for our love.
I just wanted to let you know that their family is in our prayers. Thank you for keeping the blog updated with their progress, we are praying for their children as well. I just wanted to post my etsy site, I have stuff for sale that I will donate all of the proceeds to Stephanie and Christian's fund, it is at ciaobellababy.etsy.com I have not yet updated all of my items, but hope to do it soon. Good luck
Claire
as always so wonderfully written.
xoxo
I don't have a clever or meaningful word to say!
You laugh, you cry, you hurt, you swell with joy, you fear, you know, you inspire, you uplift, you teach....this kind of love is the absolute purest form of beautiful there is!
Dear Courtney,
I will also be holding an auction on my blog for Stephanie. I wish you and your family all the best! Just wanted Stephanie to know she has people rooting for her---even in Japan!
Happy Birthday, Chup!!!!!!!
I've read your sister's blog for a while as I love to read blogs of other LDS women. What a true example of a Christlike woman she is!! My thoughts and prayers are with Stephanie, Christian, their children, and all of you who have been affected so profoundly by this experience. May the Lord continue to give you strength in the weeks and months ahead to cope with whatever you may face. Your sister will always be beautiful.
Much Love - Joanne, England
Wow, that is amazing. Amazing to see your perspective.
I wish I could do more. For now, know that I am praying for Steph, Christian, their children, you, and your family.
I also love what you said about "not turning anyone away." That is so important for you and "them" for overall healing.
Blessings poured out, CJane!!
I have been amazed at the fulfilling lives your sister and her husband have led in such a short amount of time-- I for one cannot wait to see what they do with the rest. I have no doubt it will be just as beautiful.
I keeping going back to the quote someone posted by President Ezra Taft Benson
"Men and women who turn their lives over to God will discover that He can make a lot more out of their lives than they can. He will deepen their joys, expand their vision, quicken their minds, strengthen their muscles, lift their spirits, multiply their blessings, increase their opportunities, comfort their souls, raise up friends, and pour out peace."
The first time I read this I thought about your sister, but now as the days have passed I think this is more about your entire family. I'm thankful that I've been able to witness a true example of Christlike love.
I came across your blog through Liz's blog and have been in awe of your family rallying together through this tragedy. I know this is what God created family for and it is so refreshing to see it put into action the very way He intended. Although we do not share the same beliefs, I do know that God cares deeply about what is going on in your family. He gives strength for each new day and His mercies are renewed every day. I am praying for you and your family. May you feel God's love and strength to endure each and every moment. You have an incredible gift for writing and you and your husband have sacrificed your time with your own little one to be the "step in" mom and dad for your sister's children. Not many people can just up and pick up and put their lives on hold to do this. Not because they don't want to, but because of life, jobs, small houses, etc. Your sister and brother-in-law will love reading your blog when she is well enough to and will cherish you for the sacrifice you are making on their behalf. God's blessings to you.
Another true, beautiful post.
Your family is such a wonderful example of your LDS faith.
Your courage and strength amaze me. I lost my brother in March and one of the hardest things for me was feeling that, with all this wonderful gospel truth that we have, it didn't make it any easier. The missing and the hurting were (are) so poignantly painful and present. Evidence of love, they say. We are just coming out of the woods on that one, and I hope that somehow along the way I am becoming who Heavenly Father wants me to be. It's inspiring to see the faith and optimism you have during such strife and chaos. While you must be experiencing the most exquisite pain and sadness, you do it so beautifully. Your family is truly touching thousands of lives. What enormous testimonies you have. Thanks for sharing your strength.
Hi Jane,
Firstly, as everyone before me has said, I am sorry, for everything.
I cannot begin to imagine the journey you are on with your family, but know from reading about it that you are all very strong in your faith and love and this is what will get you through.
You have lifted my spirits tonight, even through all your heartache. It is the first anniversary today of my dad's passing and it has been an horrendous day..but you have made me see that I can go on.
Thank you.
Regardless of the outcome she will still be beautiful, because like you said she is! Thank you so much for letting us be a part of this recovery process. You could have just shut your blog down and said that you didn't have time due to a family crisis. Thank you sharing this story with us and letting us be involved because our hearts have truly been touched. The gospel is truly wonderful as it teaches us that we will be restored to our fullness one day.
What an amazing family you all are. I find myself in awe of how you only focus on the positive. If only everyone could do that.
I don't personally know any of you, but I want to thank you for sharing - I have personally begun to do an inventory of my own life because of Stephanie and Christian, and all of you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
The strength of you and your family is so inspiring and yet because of your (and mine) beliefs not surprising. I have often wondered how I would react if my faith was tested to the depth that Nie's, Christian's and your family's is being tested. I am praying for them both, their children, your family and the doctors. I strive to have the faith, strength and grace that is being shown. Heartfelt love, thoughts and prayers, julie
c, God is so using you in this chapter of His good book:)
love and prayers... sweetheart,
dani
thank you for being so committed to updates. your blog is the first and last thing i look at every day. It fills my soul with hope and understanding. I plan on donating ....please add my website. www.laurascomfychair.blogspot.com
First of all I am sorry for not commenting or writing earlier. I have been following your blog since I read about NieNie on another blog.
I have shed a couple of tears so far, although I don't know either of you and haven't had the pleasure to read your sisters blog earlier. Now when I read it, I find it inspiring, not only creatively, but also from the way that she just seems to spread happiness and sweetness in every picture and blog entry.
I dearly hope that everything will be fine with her and her husband and their children. I think you are all doing such a wonderful job and are all definately in my prayers.
In these times it is so amazing how the gospel helps us to get along, hope and survive and it connects us with fellow members or people we have never seen.
Many greetings and all that you guys can think / whish of from Sweden.
Your witty and eloquent writing painted a picture of a family that is bonded together; one that pulls together and loves together. Your words brought me to my knees in mighty prayer to my father in heaven for a couple I have never met or heard of until this moment. May God continue to bless you as you share the story of your sister and brother-in-law. He is working through you to reach people across the nation and to bring to them the joy of knowing families are eternal and the true meaning of faith and hope. Your words have power and I felt it as I read each word. I send my love, condolences, tears, faith, and love for their children. Thank you, and God bless.
All I can say is I wish I could do more. I have no money to donate. In fact, if I were to do an auction, I would need the money for my own family so bad. I have wondered as I play with my children (boys, ages 9 and 3), what could I possibly do? Being a stranger, I didn't want to ask for your address so I could give the kids something. I have the perfect Buzz Lightyear gun for Ollie that my 3 yr old doesn't really need. He has enough guns. Besides, his favorite thing in the whole world is his "backscratcher sword." I would love to let my little 3 yr old play with Ollie. I'd love to be able to do ANYTIHNG. But since I'm only a blogging friend I can't. I do have a plan though. My sister is the music teacher at your niece's school. Soon I will have her send some music home. I'll give the kids my favorite CD's and hope they love them too.
As for Stephanie and Christian, I'm so glad they are healing. My prayers are simple in their behalf. I pray they will be able to heal so they can raise their children whom they love so much. I also add the side note that they can heal enough to not scare the kids. I pray for you and Chup. I pray for the kids that they will have peace. You are so lucky to have so much family.
I believe that the Lord sends us ways to handle things that we never thought we would possibly be able to endure. And most of the time, it is through the love and service of others.
I am so happy for Stephanie and Christian and your family, that you are surrounded by the love of others right now.
Of course I don't know Stephanie, but I literally cannot wait for the day that she is able to hear and read of all of the outpouring of love for their sweet family.
I will admit that I thought of Steph's beauty as well. Picturing she would heal up and look just the same. I know that's not probable but she will always be beautiful. I am striving to have more love in my home. More passion for the little things, in honor of her.
When thinking of Stephanie and Christian, I have thought that I hope there faces are okay. But, reading what you wrote today lets me know that Stephanie does have some burns on her face. I agree that it will be hard to have her look different because she is so beautiful. But, then I realized that it's not just her face that makes her beautiful...it's her personality, her love for her family and the Gospel, her creativeness, and her passion for life. Anyone who has read her blog knows that she will never lose this. She might look a little different on the outside, but she will still be beautiful and probably so thankful she's alive and able to raise her children.
Thank you for the updates...I check every day! And your whole family is still in my prayers daily!
Long ago before I became a member of the Church, an LDS friend wanted to help me and my husband move to our new home. I resisted her kind offer until she said, "I honestly want to help and how am I to receive blessings if I can't?". I was always a person who didn't want help and wanted to do things on my own, but her words really struck a chord with me. I always remind myself of the blessing others can recieve by accepting their kind acts of service, such as help with a move or RS meals after birthing a newborn.
You and Chup are wonderful people. The world needs more selfless people like the two of you.
Stephanie's spirit IS so beautiful and that is what shined most through her blog. Many of us readers "fell-in-love" with that part of her. When they are healed I just imagine that Christian will look at her and will find her even more precious and beautiful.
Prayers for you all!
Though I just started reading you and your sister a few weeks before the accident, I think about you all constantly. I'm sure we'll never meet in real life, but know that I pray and worry over you and Stephanie like you're my own sisters. Thank you so much for so beautifully recording and sharing so we can give you bloggy hugs from all over the world.
courtney--
you amaze me! every day as i check in, my spirit is strengthened and uplifted. Your family is living proof that there is no tragedy. i have been overwhelmed by how my heart aches for these people i don't "know" just blog stalk. this experience has made me grab my little girl and just hold her, stop and thank my husband daily for ALL that he does for me, and it has made me think about and take action as to what i want to happen, when or if something happens to me or my husband.
thank you for your inspiration, blessings will we poured out upon you and your family, because you have blessed our lives.
Love you tons and praying for you daily.
You are all very loved.
The blogging world is incredible for sure and I've been blown away by how this sad and painful event has brought out the amazing in people. Stephanie and Christian (and you and yours my dear) have blessed the lives of many and now it's the many's turn to return the favor.
much love
i haven't been thinking tragedy either. miracle, more. i'm amazed by God's love, by the fact that love multiplies million-fold by a single [ever] beautiful girl, a single act.
love love you all.
My 2 year old saw me crying (reading your blog once again) and came to wipe my tears. His hands were covered in some left over chocolate he found on the table. Now so am I. Still praying daily for your family. Will continue to do so.
Happy Birthday to Chup.
love from Arizona...sandi (signed in on my daughter's account)
I just started reading Nie's blog after her accident and I am hooked. I have read every single entry since the beginning in one week! Her beauty, spirit and love have touched my soul forever. I am a better person for "knowing" her and her story now. I pray at least 10 times a day for her, Christian, your family and those sweet babes. She will have the most amazing story from this and something tells me she will come out of it even more beautiful than before.
Love to you and your family,
Michelle
I have only been reading Nie for a few months now and I fell in love with her and her family right away. As a Christian, Nie and I share different faiths but I looked forward to her posts everyday. I love her free spirited nature, the beautiful love she felt for her husband, and her creativity with her children (not to mention that they are the most adorable family in the world).
After I heard about the accident I have been absolutely heartsick. I pray for Nie, Mr. Nielsen, and their families everyday. Although I live in central Illinois, very far away from the tragedy, I feel like I am missing a most dear neighbor.
C Jane- I also LOVE that you are keeping us posted on their progress AND the happenings with their children. I can't help thinking that Stephanie would want it that way.
Again, you are all in my prayers!!
Your words are beautiful, C Jane. Thank you.
I have been uplifted and inspired over the last couple weeks with your words. It amazes me how smart our Heavenly Father was when he created us and families. Where would we be without families? I am so thankful that Steph & Christian have the family they have. Truly Amazing. I will continue to pray for them and keep them in my thoughts. Over the last week or so when I would be taking care of my little sweet pea I would think, "What would NieNie do?" She was an amazing mother, I hope some day to be half of what she was. Thanks for the updates!
C jane...you are the best! The Chief is so lucky to have you!
Happy birthday to Chup today! And, we always find out what kind of people we really are when there is adversity, or tragedy, or whatever you want to call it.
It's lovely to know there are people like you and your family in this world. Keeping you all in our prayers.
SO beautifully written. Thank you all for being such an inspiration to me and so many others. I am so honored and thrilled to be a part of Nie Nie day tomorrow!!!
xoxox...jenn
noodle and lou studio
I found your blog (via Nie's, vie Oh Happy Day) and I am now compelled to check it every day. And I am amazed that, despite the fact that I know NO ONE in Utah and have only been to Arizona a handful of times, I feel very connected to your family.
What a blessing you have in the family that surrounds you. And what an unbelievable support system your sister and her husband have as they recover. My thoughts and prayers are with you and with them as they heal and change, and as you and your extended family embrace their children.
Much love and peace to all of you!
I am left to wonder, what sacrifice would you go through personally to personally affect thousands of lives? Your beauty?
For me, this reaches into the heart of this ordeal. It's The Big Question. Some people say that we specifically chose our trials before we came here. I don't know about that, don't know how that concept does or doesn't tie in to foreordination, but I do know what Plan and which Savior and what great purpose, cause, and dream of a reward we chose, after being perfectly educated by perfect and perfectly loving Parents.
This situation has broken my heart over and over again, but in my opinion, there is great purpose in it beyond heartbreak. I feel like I'm tuned into the Miracle Channel as I watch and listen here, and my heart is compensated its hurt and at times overflows with amazement and gratitude as I witness you, your family, your friends, and the greater blogging community cope and cooperate and love and accept and testify and grow in grace. I keep wanting to say thank you.
You are affecting thousands, maybe more. You all are. I am so proud to know you. I am so eager to learn from your examples. I really love you and feel privileged to be associated with your goodness and faith.
The question, a version of your own, that's rolling around in my head right now is, What sacrifice would I go through personally to affect the life of . . . one? or a few? The Lord's economy is incredible and he can do so much more with our lives than we can alone. That said, I don't know that I will be one of those who touches thousands+, or does it in such an exquisite way, but . . . really, what am I willing to give or give up to make the difference that's mine to make? That's what I'm taking away from your blog of beauty this morning. Thank you for helping me with that point.
Sorry this is so incredibly long already, but it's about to get longer. Your question reminded me of this quote by Joseph Smith, which I find terrifyingly beautiful. After being a tiny part of this story, the terror part is lessened for me and converts, like sugar in the body, into power and energy.
"Let us here observe, that a religion that does not require the sacrifice of all things never has power sufficient to produce the faith necessary unto life and salvation; for, from the first existence of man, the faith necessary never could be obtained without the sacrifice of all earthly things. It was through this sacrifice, and this only, that God has ordained that men should enjoy eternal life; and it is through the medium of the sacrifice of all earthly things that men do actually know that they are doing the things that are well pleasing in the sight of God. When a man has offered in sacrifice all that he has for the truth's sake, not even withholding his life, and believing before God that he has been called to make this sacrifice because he seeks to do his will, he does know, most assuredly, that God does and will accept his sacrifice and offering, and that he has not, nor will not seek his face in vain."
Courtney,
I wanted to thank you for this blog where we can keep up to date with what's going on with Stephanie and Christain. But even more - it allows us to really emotionally connect with this tragic situation and realize the good that is coming from it. I really appreciate your thoughtful and insightful posts. They make me smile and bring tears to my eyes at the same time. Your entire family has a special place in my heart and I pray for all of you every night. You are all doing amazing things. Especially Stephanie and Christian.
Love,
Emily S.
I wish I could wash away your family's pain with the tears I shed everyday reading your courageous updates. I am so, so sorry for what has happened to you all, but I feel in my heart that God has allowed this for some greater purpose. It is too long to go into here, but He has a plan. Greater than any of us can imagine. Peace and Joy of the Lord be with you all. My prayers are for ALL of you.
Sincerely, ~Donna
We just lost our Mom to Pancreatic cancer. I understand the feeling of blessings. If you look hard enough there is a blessing in everything. You are right on. The service of others is truly an important part of our Fathers plan. How grateful we are for the Gospel, every aspect of it. Thanks for sharing, you and your family are inspiring.
What I see here is your family being paid back in kind for the love, service and help you have surely offered so many through the years. Good for you for seeing beauty in the midst of tragedy.
Can't wait for NieNie day!
You have brought me to tears again. You are such a gifted writer.
one of my silent wishes for Nie on my balloon was
"letting the inner beauty take center stage"
Her impact on lives I think will be even more profound now, because people will be touched by who she genuinely is, not by what she looks like.
My testimony of the the gospel of Jesus Christ and the knowledge that Heavenly Father has a plan for me and all of us has been strengthened through this post.
Thank you.
Your family is an amazing role model for many others. I believe that God is blessing you with strength and faith to get through this time. My prayers are with all of you. I appreciate your openness in your blog. You have touched me.
Lisa C. in CT
I never, ever plan to cry, but tears always seem to come with I read either the posts or the comments related to this journey.
I love to think of it in the way you've proposed it. That Stephanie and Christian are sacraficing so much (much more than many can understand) but as a result, are inspiring thousands and thousands of people to live better, to be happier, to serve more, to remember the eternal purpose to this "test". They are the greatest form of teachers and I do believe not only were they chosen for this calling in life, but gladly accepted it. Knowing that sacrifice brings forth blessings.
My soul has needed to hear these stories of compassion, service and hope as of late. So thank you for sharing and LETTING others serve your family.
I love how you opened this post - I will carry your words in my heart...
Nie's blog showed up in my google reader suggestions some months ago, which led me to yours, and I've enjoyed peeking in on your blogs for some time now.
Your family - Nie and Christian and the kids especially - have been almost constantly in my thoughts - the hope, faith, joy and love you write about, and sprouting up all over the blogosphere inspire me. Beautiful.
I haven't prayed in a long time. Since I learned about what happened to Nie, I found myself praying for her family, her caregivers, and specially Nie and Mr. Nielson’s parents every chance I get. I guess it's never too late to get closer to God.
Caribbean Kisses to you all.
Found the story through Shebert Blossoms - your entire family is in our thoughts and prayers!
Thinking of you all, today.
many times through out my daily routine my thoughts are turned to stephanie. Wondering just what you asked...what would I go through personally to be able to affect others?
She has always been beautiful. In elementary school everyone wanted to be her friend I thought it was because of her physical beauty.
Over the course of middle school and high school I found that she was beautiful inside as well.
Yes, she is a beautiful woman. Her vintage classic beauty, red lipstick and lovely freckles scream beauty, but her vigor for life, her passion in motherhood and true love for her husband far surpasses her physical beauty.
I know there is a purpose for everything. I also know that God must really think something of Stephanie and Christian having full confidence that they can handle what they are going through and touching many lives in the process.
Beautiful Stephanie will always be beautiful, inspiring thousands and beautifying everything and everyone she comes in contact with.
Reading and thinking about this experience has caused me to ponder much the great council and Christ a lot. how much he knew he was going to suffer, but how there was this greater purpose and how much all the pain would be worth it- how he probably didn't hesitate to step forward and take it for the sake of EVERY soul.
Then I wonder how much we knew about out lives before we came, if we heard about the fiery crashes in our lives yet to hapen before we cross the veil. If someone like Stephanie said 'send me, I would love this life- I would love the opportunity to touch many with the example of Christ's love and help others to learn of the beauty of charity and mercy and miracles'. It seems to me she is the kind of soul to get the bigger picture just like Christ.
Maybe this all sounds strange or off. There is a lot about the pre-existance I still don't understand or fully grasp. It's just sort of in tune with your post, so I thought I would try to connect them.
p.s. even after their recovery, the sharing of this experience will go keep going. I couldn't imagine this not hitting Oprah or becoming a fabulous happy ending (not in a massage happy ending kind of way if you know what I mean) movie.
I was so upset when I learned of Stephanie and Christian's plane crash. I felt the blood drain from my face. I have been emotional ever since. I cannot get them off my mind and pray for them and their children daily. I am so inspired by your loving family and how positive you remain in light of what is happening to your sister and brother-in-law. You all amaze me! I am also super touched by the outpouring of love from neighbors, friends, and strangers. It is obvious that Stephanie has touched many lives. I really do not have adequate words at this time, but wanted you to know how much I care, and that I will pray for them and you all every single day. Take care!
Wendy from Flippin' Sweet
Happy birthday Chup!
I think the silver linings of tragedies is you find out how many people truly love and care about you. I was astonished at the people who called to help and show support when my dad almost passed.
Does Nie know that you have her children? I'm sure it would make her so, so happy to know they are in the best of hands.
I don't have anything to auction off, but I can't wait to start bidding! I really want to help!
I, like many others, have visited your sister's blog for a while now. I've always been touched by her positivity and by what a good mother and wife she is.
I had a similar situation to yours happen a few months ago. My husband was put in the very same hospital with a traumatic brain injury. Our LDS faith and fantastic friends and family have helped us to get through our situation also. We are still working toward his complete recovery, but like you, our "tragedy" has brought amazing growth within our family. Your sister is loved by so many. Sending lots of love your way for the months ahead. You are amazing, stay strong!
Haleigh
My commute takes past the hospital every day, as I drive by this battleground of healing my thoughts turn not only to your Sister and her Husband, they also turn to the Doctors Nurses and family’s fighting for a return to good health. In an instant I realize that the prayers not only meant for your family but also for the prayers on behalf of the other patients and family’s in this hospital make this a special place. You can almost see the blessings pouring down form the heavens each and every day. My words aren’t that elegant and my thoughts are jumbled around in my head but I think of you and your family daily and pray for strength and understanding. I normally don’t comment because I feel like a fish out of water among the sea of women on your inspiring blog but I want to let you know you are in my prayers each and every day.
P.S. Tell Chup he is not alone in showing his emotions towards his family. Men don’t do in enough in this day and age. Being a support to your wife and children is true sign of manhood and not an indication of weakness.
I, like thousands of others, have been deeply touched by your family's accident. Thank you for being willing to open up and share. You are helping more people than you can even imagine.
My niece passed away in a drowning accident earlier this summer. Her mother (my sister in law) has found incredible support and comfort in connections made through the internet. People out there are so GOOD and loving, it's incredible. Sounds like you are finding this to be the same.
Maybe you have read this already, but your comment about tragedy reminded me of a great talk by Spencer W. Kimball: http://emp.byui.edu/HUFFR/Tragedy%20or%20Destiny%20--%20Spencer%20W.%20Kimball.htm
It helps to put these types of trials into perspective. I hope its words will help you as it has lifted me!
I'll be silent auctioning on your family's behalf tomorrow. My prayers continue for your strength and peace. hugs from california, elizabeth
I have watched my son suffer greatly things that most adults could only think of in horror. At first I felt I was forced into some inexplicable hell to watch and not be able to help a mothers worst nightmere, but slowly I stopped questioning why this had happened to him and started watch his incredible spirit cope with a broken body, the strength he has is something that few will ever have. He is just the way the lord intended him and while others may look at him and say what a horrible life they just dont understand. I am sure it will not be even close to easy in the months ahead for everyone involved but nie has strength enough for this and so do you and her children
Another heart wrenching beautiful post.
No matter what she looks like...I know that we all will still think she is a breathtakingly beautiful woman...because that is exactly what she is...and always will be.
One thing is for sure, she is personally affecting thousands, and so are you C Jane. Love you!
thank you for your posts and updates on nie nie! i am so sorry for what has happened to your family. thank you for taking care of her sweet children. i know you will be blessed for such kindness. you are all in our prayers.
I was reminded of this talk by Sister Smoot a while back....
Sister Smoot said.....
I would like to share the story of Susanna Stone Lloyd, who at the age of 26 left England in 1856 and traveled to Utah alone. The only member of her family to join the Church, Susanna was a member of the Willie Handcart Company. Like so many other pioneers, she endured life-threatening hunger, illness, and fatigue.
Upon arriving in the Salt Lake Valley, Susanna borrowed a mirror to make herself more presentable. Despite her best efforts, she recounts: “I shall never forget how I looked. Some of my old friends did not know me.” 1 Having sold her own mirror to an Indian for a piece of buffalo meat, she had not spent much time looking at herself. Now she did not recognize her own image. She was a different person, both inside and out. Over the course of rocky ridges and extreme hardship came a deep conviction. Her faith had been tried, and her conversion was concrete. She had been refined in ways that the very best mirror could not reflect. Susanna had prayed for strength and found it—deep within her soul.
We have all been inspired by Nie's ability to turn the frustrating, mundane, and overwhelming task of motherhood into something enchanting and romantic. Won't it be interesting to see what she does with this trial she's been given? I think we'll all be inspired yet again.
CJane,
I also don't know you or Nie but have been reading your blogs for years.
I was thinking about the blog you posted about a month or so ago. The one where you said you were going to stop blogging but you just couldn't bring yourself to do it. I think this is why - so you could tell Nie's story and help her and your family through this process. And so you can document her children's lives while she is recovering.
You and Chup and your siblings and parents sound like pretty amazing people to me. I can't say I'd be this pulled together in the wake of such a tragedy or family crisis. I think it's wonderful that you are willing and able to share everything on your blog.
I am not a very religious person, but I do have faith in families. And you are a wonderful example of how strong families can be.
I am thinking of Stephanie and Christian and hoping for their full recoveries. And hoping their pain is bearable - through the healing process and afterwards.
Ah Clarky, how blessed I feel to be a part of this blogging world and be inspired through your words and the life of your beautiful sister. We pray as a family for her and Christian that the Lord will make them whole. He will in one way or another. I hope that one day our paths will reunite and we can embrace as soeurs once again. Until then, I will continue to read your words and be uplifted by your life devoted to serving the Lord in whatever capacity is asked. Our prayers will continue and Nie and Christian will become part of us. We will help in whatever way possible. We love you and your family. Gardez la foi!
That is a great post! thanks!
I just stumbled upon Stephanie's blog last week. What a beautiful person, spiritually and physically. I have been praying for her and Christian, that their love for one another and trust in God will pull them through this experience. I am blown away by the way this has brought out so much good in so many people. Even while unconscious Stephanie has touched our hearts and made us all reevaluate our own lives. Rarely has someone else's tragedy brought me to tears, but the story is just so touching.
I pray for you and all your family, for you and Chup, & Lucy & her husband who suddenly have extra children, for the little ones who go to sleep without their parent's kisses, and Stephanie and Christian that they will recover in a miraculous amount of time, so they can rejoin their families.
Sending lots of good wishes and blessings.
You are so wise to let others be blessed by helping, it does help heal hearts that hurt so for you all too. I am almost embarrassed to admit that from the beginning the accident has seemed even worse to me because Stephanie and Christian are so physically beautiful. I kept thinking "Why burns, broken bones okay but why burns". It makes me feel shallow, but you have reminded me that they will still be beautiful, it just may be different. I am so grateful that you, and I, know that one day those beautiful bodies will be perfect again, especially because their spirits will never stop being beautiful. I am excited to participate tomorrow. I'm going to find something Nie-worthy!
Courtney this is such a beautifully written post.
I'm a longtime Nie and C Jane reader and have drawn inspiration from you and your lovely sister on multiple occasions. But as a current inactive member of the church, your words today have stirred something in my heart that I haven't felt in a very long time. Your faith and testimony have once again brought me to tears as it has many times over this last week and a half. My own struggling testimony has been strengthened through your words and my constant prayers for people I've never even met before.
I know of Heavenly Fathers love for us and that he hears our prayer and with that knowledge I will continue to pray for your loving family.
I knew Liz from high school. But had never known of Stephanie or her family until this. But spending a few hours reading her blog I feel like I know here and she has truly inspired me to be a better person, wife and mother.
How blessed Stephanie and Christian are to have the most amazing families and to have their children smothered with love during this time!
I cannot imagine Stephanie ever NOT being beautiful. She'll be beatuiful no matter what happens.
I will continue to keep them in my prayers!
-Salena
Thank you for this lovely piece. I'm so glad you have such immense family support there. How tremendous! Thank you for keeping us posted. We appreciate it so much.
I'll be hosting a few silent auctions on my blog tomorrow per Gabrielle's request. I just returned from France and have a few delights to share...
Hang in there!
Blessings blessings to you all.
Stephanie, Christian, and your entire circle of family remains in our daily thoughts and prayers.
Strange how the goodness of one can spread amongst so many, even stronger through such a sharp twist in the "plan".
The love you are sending, and so graciously sharing with all of us is a gift of the highest order.
Thank you for your goodness. Thank you for your strength. Thank you for the inspiration you are continuing to send daily to so very very many.
With love ~
The Tucker Family
I'm sorry for the terrible tragedy that your family is enduring at this time. I wish I could say that I knew your sister if even only through her blog as she very obviously is a special person.
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you especially her dear children! And not for just tonight but through the months and perhaps years of recovery!
God bless!
~ingrid
I don't know you or your sister other than from reading your blogs. You've all been in my thoughts and prayers. The updates you provide here are so tender and beautifully written. I'm sure someday Stephanie and Christian will love to read all that went on during this time. What strikes me so much is what an incredible family you have. I have four daughters, and it is my dream that they will be as close and supportive to each other throughout their lives. It can't be easy to share so much of your personal thought and emotion, but you are an inspiration. Hang in there -- you have legions praying for you all.
Hey there blogging stranger. My google reader picked up you and your sister on the same day about 2 weeks ago. They thought I'd love your blogs and I do.
I'm so sorry to read about the accident. I have a very dear friend (both of us LDS) who was also burnt on 80% (and an outrageous percentage of the burns were 3rd degree) of his body when we were in high school (11+ years ago). I know how freaky it can be. You're right he didn't look physically the same after the accident but his spirit was SO incredibly strong and he is still one of the most beautiful, incredible and absolutely inspiring people that I know. I am sure your sister will be too! He's gone on to get married and raise a beautiful family. Hang in there. There's millions of prayers for you and your family shooting through there. Mine included!
Much love from a *stranger*,
LJ