The knock came from my nephew who sweetly arrives every morning to pick up the girls for school. I had to answer the door in my green robe, hasty ponytail and hesitant voice. It was to be a short day at school, a prelude to the holiday weekend. Everyone knows that not much goes on the day before break. And quite honestly, I've collected enough Thanksgiving arts, crafts and painted pasta placed on string a la festive Native American necklaces for one holiday. So I told him to go ahead without us, we'd sit this one out.
But as soon as the door shut, Jane's eyes opened. She protested, whined and cried out at the injustice of me deciding her educational fate for the day. If there is a social call, Jane will respond. Kindergarten is right up her alley. Friends, snacks, cute little poems recited out loud . . . not one day can be missed! So my green robe and I started up the cold car, with a hot red head ready for the short day, and dropped her off at school.
Claire, on the other hand, was gratuitously kind to me for keeping her home. She created a blog with Aunt Lizzy who came to Retro House with a box of orange sugar cookies. Ollie licked his frosting (What? There is a cookie under there?) and wandering around the house in his Spidey costume making the sound affects that correlate with saving the day.
Fshhhhhshsh! Caw! Caw! Caw!
My Chief woke up with pink cheeks and swirly hair. We both begged Daddy to not leave for work which is practically a morning ritual. Sometimes I wonder if all wives have to put on a brave face when their husbands go to work. I am a homebody who can justify staying home any day of the week, and I can't help but persuade other family members to do the same. Every day should be a stay-at-home day, a day for coloring, books and home-bound projects. Work only disturbs family time, that necessary-paycheck-producing evil (for which I am so grateful).
After Dad's car disappeared down the street, we had no choice but to color and read books (and save the day some more) without him. When Jane came home (happily smarter than yesterday, and loaded up with more construction papered feathers), Christian treated us to Jambas and a trip to the pharmacy. Could one afternoon contain so much excitement?
We wrote stories.
The Chief napped.
Ollie and I played bad guy/ good guy. Why do I always have to be the bad guy?
Ate cinnamon bread.
And so the day continued until Dad's car returned in our driveway. He made a yaki soba dinner while I attempted puzzles with Jane. For dessert we played with the children a homemade game involving turkeys, eagles and pillows being thrown. When the last turkey was gobbled, we read from the Book of Mormon and talked about sixteen stones and Jesus Christ. By the last verse, two out of four children had to be scooped up to bed. The very place I am also headed as soon as I press "Publish Post."
And now we've come full circle.



89 Pieces of Opinion:
I felt like I just lived your day with you. Ollie sounds like my Jack. He is obsessed with Spider Man as well...
Happy Thanksgiving!
very sweet. love your families story.
OH... I just wanted to post a comment since I am the first one! Actually, I join you in the morning ritual of BEGGING my husband to take the day off work. He reminds me ~ frequently~ That he is granted an alottment of PTO... which is slowly earned by the number of hours which you work... which puts a complete damper in the day! So my littlest buddy and I stand at the door and cry, "daddy come back and take me with you" as a morning ritual.
Hug the whole bunch of you~ I'm missing Steph and her red wagon at the bus stop each morning. I loved driving by and seeing that. But I smile when I read how happy she is there.
I love your blog, I have often frequented Stephanies but never yours (until you started updating for her) Look what I was missing! You are a gifted writer (and funny as heck, I might add) Thank you as always for the updates, You all are in my thoughts & prayers.
So the crying worked? What a great day. My oldest was home from school today and it was fabulous. I kept her home a week ago when she faked sick. I told her it wasn't necessary to fake sick but she could just skip a day. It's good for them. But you just can't hold back those social girls!
You are an awesome mom, aunt, wife and sister. Hope you guys have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
I join you in the begging the hardworking hubby to stay home with me. He finally asked me to stop b/c it was hard enough to leave us all at home. So about 4 years ago I stopped and I am now rewarded with a hubby who works out of the house!! Yippee!!! but he is still working so i can't distract him to much with our coloring, wii playing and all the fun!!
Happy thanksgiving!!
I love your writing style and the way the words seem to flow from you. You truly have been a blessing in NieNie's life. If you ever need a place to stay when you come to Arizona, we are not too far from the burn unit and would love to host you at our home. I have 5 kids 13-3 so come join our fun-I do mean that in all seriousness:)
My husband does graveyards and there have been many a tear shed begging him not to go. It got better when the baby came along, but every now and then I still cry when he leaves at night. Too bad we can't all live on love only!
I can't stand to lurk any longer! Your amazing way with a story touches me every single post! I am a regular person (most of the time) and yet when I read what's going on with you and the family, it wrecks me...I laugh, I hurt and I go on, just as you do. Just wanted to say thanks.
Juliet in Southern Cal
Awwww sounds like a wonderful day minus the fact that Chup had to work!!
Hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving and can find time for yourself!!
Karen in Texas
Sounds like such a wonderful day! I'm a homebody too.
That Jane!!!
:) Oh - and the chief really is too terribly cute. I don't think he needs to grow any more either. He's so perfect as is. And I haven't even snuggled him myself!
So what happened with "The Chief?" Did he cry it out or did you cave?
I sat my husband down to watch this once and told him that this is how I feel every morning:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ypdudrIfdtQ&feature=related
He laughed. I didn't.
I also often ask my husband if it's "Take your Swabby to work day" (our nickname for our one year old)
I HATE when he leaves. The boys hate it too.
What a wonderful day! Is cry it out postponed or a raging success? I was never able and have one child who sleeps like a log and has so since day one and a child who sleeps like...whatever the total opposite of a log would be!
nice.
loved the london article and learning your baby's real name :-)
also, wasn't gigs wearing that same adorable brown knitted outfit at one time in his baby life?
your writing gets better and better.
hugs to all and happy thanksgiving. i hope stephanie is faring well and is in good spirts in rehab.
So, I haven't even finished reading the post, but your line "we'll sit this one out" kills me. I totally busted out laughing! Thank You for the humor!
Confession: sometimes I ask my husband to not come home for lunch so I don't have to endure the inevitable difficult departure twice in one day. Not that I don't like having him around -- quite the opposite, actually -- but some days I just don't have it in me to pick up the pieces twice!
Love your blog. Thanks for sharing so much of your life with strangers.
Sounds like a great day.
Homeschool! Then you can have all that fun 365 days a year.
Hi Courtney, well that sounded like a perfect day....the little bumps make life interesting...and Jane is her OWN girl! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and ty for the scripture. ~Donna
What a wonderful day! What a wonderful person you are! When I was little, my mom (also a homebody) would occasionally do the same thing, but she called it "Pajama Day". I love that you brought Jane to school in your green robe <3
Boys are so great at making super hero, car, helicopter, etc. sounds. I love your interpretation of Ollie's.
Oh, and you are not alone in the begging of the spouse to stay home. I don't have children yet, but every morning I get up, have breakfast with my husband, make his lunch, kiss him and embrace him at the door and let him go remembering how grateful I am that he has a job to go to that he loves and that enables me to go to school full-time, but not before whispering in his ear "Are you sure you really have to go to work today?" As he pulls out of the driveway, I am left wishing for a Pajama Day.
Hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving!
I've now officially gone back and read through your entire blog, just like I did with Stephanie's. You are a very creative writer.
Cute post. The writing you do makes everything so vivid.
Happy Thanksgiving.
"When will you be home" Is ALWAYS, everyday, the second thing I say to my husband when he leaves for work. This first is goodbye, and third is I love you...Cheers to us "brave-faced" stay-at-home mommies!!!!! And thanks for sharing your story! I too have sent up prayers for your family...It's just what fellow Christians do for each other!
Sounds like an awesome day! Our favorite BOM story is the one about the sixteen stones. Such faith!
You are awesome! I feel the same way - can't everyday be a stay at home day?
We skipped school yesterday too. And went bowling. And napped.
Life is sweet.
I let my little girl stay home from her half-day before the holiday, too! I realized that she didn't have a clean uniform (I thought there was one in the to-be-folded basket) about five minutes after I told her to get up, so I went back in her room and told her to just go back to sleep.
I've never seen a child so grateful! It's beautiful.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and your amazing family.
What a fabulously quiet day...I dream of those!!!
So, it sounds like the Crying it Out method worked last night. ? What a wonderful day. I agree, that work thing just breaks up the day and interferes with the real living in families. A necessary evil to be sure.
courtney-
i am thankful for you and your family this thanksgiving. thank you for always spurring me on to love my family more.
Kids need days like that when they can stay home from school all day in their jammies (and not because they are sick). Too bad I live in a state that only allows 8 days of absences for the whole year, otherwise I'd have my kids stay home with me just for fun at least one day every month. I used to do it with my Mom and we had the best time. And no, I wasn't hurt academically for playing hookie with my Mom. :)
You keep mentioning to Stephanie that she's famous. Have you realized that you are famous too??
I've been thinking about you and wondering how The Chief is doing sleeping. Does this excessive sleep on your part mean he slept too? If so you are deservedly the luckiest woman on the planet!
I have to ask how is the sleeping thing going? I just spoke with a friend who's baby is 6 months old and she is struggling with her waking multiple times a night. I thought of you and have prayed for you both. Happy Thanksgiving and sleeps!
Sounds like a perfect day to me! And Jamba's to boot~yummers! What is it about the days before Thanksgiving that are so lazy and sleepy?
I love hearing about your day and everyone else's in the process. I'm so glad it was a "calm after the storm" kind of morning.
I hope your entire family has a wonderful and Thanks filled Thanksgiving! You all have earned it!
I love staying at home. It is the best. You are awesome for letting Claire stay home and taking Jane to school in the cold. Happy Thanksgiving!
I hear ya sister! I'm the mom of 5 little ones in FL and the day of school preceding every holiday I BEG my kids to take the day off with promises of a funfilled day of 'homeschooling'. The alternative is schlepping my 5-month-old around to four different classroom parties. There's only so much a good mom can take! But, there is always one social butterfly who just CAN'T miss the festivities! The funfilled 'homeschooling' loses a lot of its appeal when you have to make the trip to school anyway for the diehard student. Oh well.
Does this mean your babe slept through the night, too? That's so cute you planned a stay home day, but Jane had other ideas. It sounds like you are all going to have a fabulous Thanksgiving holiday.
I am amazed. You are creating such beautiful memories. I LOVE your blog and can't wait for the next post!!! Pasta on strings, huh? Gonna have to do that one with my little guy :)
Glad to hear you had a good night of sleep! And a fun-filled day.
Happy Thanksgiving!
i too am a major homebody that will use any excuse to stay home. the thought of sending my girls to school makes me sick to the stomach. seriously.
love your stories. they make me want to be better. and i try. everyday.
love and prayers.
How do we all wish that we could 'take a day' when we felt like it...
So...how did letting the Chief cry it out go? As the mother of a five month old really bad sleeper I'm interested to know...
Did the Chief sleep through the night already? What a wonderful day.
that's so funny because yesterday i did the same thing. my oldest had a cold so i was keeping her home, so i just kept home my youngest. so when the school called to see why they weren't there (yes, i forgot to call) i said , well savannah has a cold, and well ava is home for no apparent reason, just a keep home kind of day......can you believe they mark personal days on the report card? yes, i have done this before. we all need a day to just breathe once in awhile!
good for you for doing that, even though jane wanted to go! i guarantee in a couple of years she won't do that HA!
tara
So did the Chief sleep through the night?? Or did he sleep with you all night?
dinner sounds tasty :-) glad you had a nice day.
I've had 20 years of putting on a brave face when my husband leaves for work... I hate it. I agree! Everyday should be a home day. I think that was the first reason that I had when I decided to homeschool. MOre time... time to just be a family and watch the amazing growth of my little creatures.
I wanna stay home too....sleeping in and cinnanmon bread sounds great!
c jane as a mommy blogger you are superb. Sounds like a wonderful day.
God so BLESSED us when He created families.
Happy Thanksgiving to yours.
I mope around when my husband has to go to work too - if I'm awake. He leaves so early that sometimes I miss him so I send him an e-mail asking him to come home. It never works but I know he would rather be home than at work so that is something.
Thanks for sharing your day!
I am so glad that you were able to sleep, I didn't let my baby cry it out until he was 10 months old (I was just too much of a wimp) but after one night he slept great, I can remember feeling so good after getting a full night's sleep for the firs time in almost a year.
Can I please please PLEASE stay home from work today???? Oh right. I'm already here. But thanks for giving me a few moments this morning to pretend I'm at home crafting with my babes...
Courtney, I hope you and your family have a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING.
God Bless you all ~
I want to be a mom so badly.
Thanks for sharing your stories with those of us who still have to go to work every day and wait until the time is right for little ones!!
YOU are lovely!
YOU are inspiring!
YOU are real!
OH I just know we would have been friends in high school-if we lived in the same country and had gone to the same high school
xoLo
So does that mean the Chief slept through the night???
I felt the same way with my first whom is also a boy and now 8. Each day is a new adventure with him and his little sister. I also had to do the crying out thing, trust me they never remember crying it out.
Sounds like a very normal day! Aren't they a blessing?
As for the husband being home thing...my sweetie is a history teacher and a coach so whenever the kids get a day off so does he!
This is the reason that on MY birthday morning today the TV is on the History Channel telling us all about Commanche wariors and their weapons...swell! I should get to choose, don't you think?
I'm also terrible about asking my hubby to stay home from work. He gets off to school before I wake up in the morning, but as soon as I see him before work, it's all I can do to not lock him in the house and keep him home. He hates to leave, but someone has to make the mortgage payment.
I love that you wanted to keep the kids home from school. My mom used to give us "mental health days." Which basically meant she kept one of us home from school and we did whatever we wanted.
Love your words girl! Sounds a SMIDGE like my crazy world! Wish I had a dad home every day-mines gone a week at a time while i wrangle the 7 kiddos.
Bought my shirt yesterday-can't wait to get it!
Blessings
I understand the want to stay at home with the kids and do fun stuff all day. Crafting, dancing around with a two year old on my hip, singing silly songs to make my little guy smile, laying on the floor while he pretends I am a mole hill. Those things I love to do and can't do in public without society calling me crazy. Although the majority of the world thinks we're crazy for being stay at home mommies and loving it. Oh well!
It's good to know I'm not the only wife that begs for her husband to not leave her or to beg for him to come home early! ntsco
I wish my husband would take more days off of work too. (he is a teacher and has 55 sick days to use) We don't have any children yet, but I love days of just hanging out with him. I hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Love to meet other self-proclaimed homebodies! My neighbors think it's strange. While they traipse around town all day shopping, park-hopping, and socializing, I prefer to be in my home or yard doing my chores, listening to soft music and kissing my babies. I also hate to say goodbye to husband in the morning and can't wait for his truck to park back in the driveway. I think home is heavenly when everyone is around.
I love this part "And he answered: Yea, Lord, I know that thou speakest the truth, for thou art a God of truth, and canst not lie."
And we, too, have a little Spiderman fan amongst our brood! =)
Beautiful post--I love your blog.
Happy Thanksgiving!!
What a wonderful day! You're such a sweet mama! Have a Happy Thanksgiving, if anybody deserves a splendid holiday it's you and your family.
i am also a homebody...in fact i have to fight the urge each and every day not to hang onto my husband's ankles to keep him home;-) seriously, the day can be scary without a spouse! anyway, before i was a mom i was a school teacher and ever so grateful for the moms that kept their kids home the last day before holiday. i'm sure claire is an easy kid, as well as jane, but less bodies in the room made it easier to help the naughty ones that inevitably never missed school the entire year. don't get me wrong, i loved teaching (best job besides "mommy") and i love the naughty kids (always had the best relationship with them), but everyone needs a break right? i'm so thankful for what your family has done for our little family. happy thanks!
You are so adorable. I love reading your blog and I couldn't wait to see how the night went for you and 'the Cheif'. Sounds like you had success, and on the first night?! I am pround of you for doing something so hard. I am glad you all slept well. Keep it up!
you have bouyed me up again. thank you. and thank you to Christian for his beautiful video
I was curious how cry-it-out was going? I doubt you remember my comment (since you got so many), but I was in the process of doing while reading your post! My daughter cried 2:30 hours, then almost 2, then 1, and just now only one minute!!! Just thought a success story (so far anyway) might help! Take care and have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Your day sounds absolutely delicious. What fun. You inspire me to have more days like that.
Where O Where is the cry it out update? :)
congrats on getting some sleep! crying it out is definitely the worst, but the rewards are the BEST!
I'm so glad to read how well you slept. I was wondering after your post about Chief sleeping on his own.... Sounds like the Bishop was correct! Congratulations!
Does that mean the chief slept through the night??? Hooray!!!
Did Jane's motivation come from the new boots? I know how I feel with a new pair of shoes. You really must post a photo of these boots.
Also, I miss the original pic on the "mommy blogger" post about the chief a day or two ago.
I would be like Claire...thanksful for the free day. :) Sounds like a great day to me!
Does this post mean that the Chief slept through the night?! Or was it another glorious night of snuggling with your beautiful baby?
What a perfect day. Thank you for blogging these ordinary moments, and for honoring the differences in the girls' personalities.
Wouldn't life be wonderful if we could just stay at home in our coziest clothes, cuddled up with our families likes birds in a nest?
Dear Courtney,
Since learning of the accident through SouleMama's blog, there has not been a day that I haven't thought of your family...read archives, or been touched in some way by a thought, idea, or spirit of your sister...or you! I just watched Christian's video, and I could just feel his spirit and love toward everyone. When you posted that Stephanie had been woken from her coma, I just wanted to call everyone I know to express my joy and relief--
I am amazed how we are all so connected and can come to care for others so easily, as I have learned in meeting your family via the blogs. Thank you so much for sharing your story, for posting each day when you can, and allowing others to deeply care and help. I know lots and lots of people have probably expressed similar sentiments, but I just feel like I couldn't let another day go by without telling you mine personally.
You are all so special and beautiful and I have come to care for you all very much.
Wishing you all a wonderful Thanksgiving.
Jill
Hi, I'm a faithful lurker. I love your writing. And your faith. Just wanted to say that we read the same Chapter in Ether yesterday. Cool. Happy Thanksgiving.
AH just relaxed after reading your blog!!! It's like a wonder drug! :)
Courtney, I just wanted to say "Thank You". Really! Between you and your sister, my life has changed since discovering your blogs/musings. I read them in detail because not only are they "inspirational" in the mother sense but also in the spiritual sense. I almost wonder if a formal handwritten letter would be best than a comment on your blog. However, I'm sure you'll receive the "thank you" either way. I'm in love with your family values and your devotion to each other. Before discovering your blogs I found myself in random states of depression which is odd for me and seemed sudden and also in constant fits with my husband but now, it seems that I'm a little more in tune to what is important. The smaller things that are supposed to bring us such JOY. That was exactly what I'd prayed for before sitting down and readying your blogs. I'm finding "JOY" and I've been writing about them so at any moment, I can go back and reflect on them which I suppose is the purpose of a blog. So, while God is still working on me and my family, I can feel a change coming and I can hear God saying "I'm working in it." everytime I pray. and I know he's doing the same for you and yours! THANK YOU!!!
Yes, I too hate it when my hubby has to leave for work.
You are a good mommy/auntie! Thanks for inspiring me to be a better mom!
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