Friday, December 18, 2009

A Christmas Story About The End of The World


Me as a missionary in Canada--Christmas 1998


I once met a lady in Quebec who had been promised in a blessing that a year after her death the end of the world would come. The Lord would return and usher in the great and terrible day prophesied by biblical prophets. She even showed us the blessing, which had been written and recorded, as we sat eating tofu stew in her half-finished home.

It was Christmas time, eleven years ago.

The snow in northern Quebec was only as remarkable as the sub-freezing temperatures. As a missionary who spent many hours a day knocking on doors with frozen knuckles, I was terribly unprepared for this winter. I traded in my half-hearted trench coat for a double down black survival coat, and relented to adult-sized moon boots. No matter, I could not shake the feeling of being iced-over most of the time. Even with the warm gospel message in my heart.

"When I tell the missionaries about this blessing," said Soeur Tremblay speaking excitedly in English with her French-Canadian accent, "they say 'Oh Soeur Tremblay you must send us a Christmas card every year from now until you die.' Because then they will know when the Lord is going to return. You see."

So my companion and I added ourselves to page 5 of her Missionaries Who Want Christmas Cards list. As far as church doctrine indicated, no one knew the time of the second coming, but who would turn down a hint? Besides, I would love to find out how little Guy was doing or if his younger sister Giselle ever accomplished growing out her inevitable mullet. Keeping up with the Tremblays year-after-year in hopes of knowing when the world ended sounded like an adventurous some-day ending guessing game. Or at least an intriguing story to tell at missionary reunions.

"Only rule" she cheerfully sang in our ears, "is that I must hear back from you, or else no Christmas card the next year."

Deal.

Then when she went in the next room to answer her telephone I dumped my bowl of tofu soup back in the pot.

"What are you doing?" My companion looked at me with disgusted features on her face.

"I can't eat this soup." I said confidently back.

Soeur Tremblay was somewhere in her fifties, so barring an early death, I was trusting I'd have a lifetime to repent anyway.

My mission ended in October.
I was grateful to have escaped before feeling the wrath of another northern winter. Quebec was other-worldly, not like the rest of Canada, not quite Europe either. It was haunting and beautiful and curious. I would miss it.

That Christmas I received my first card from Soeur Tremblay. She was still alive, bouncing around her unfinished house--wooded walls bare to the studs--passionate about the gospel of Jesus Christ and doting on her two children.

She is alive! We've got at least another year before the end. I thought to myself, cleverly.

And I thought the same the next year when Soeur Tremblay's card arrived.

But that was the year I found myself divorcing after a nine month marriage. In the whirlwind of "what to do?" I sadly forgot to prove loyal on my side of the deal. I did not write the Tremblays back--a mistake I didn't realize until no card came the third year.

With no return address to write to,
I decided I'd join the ranks of the other oblivious saints who had nothing but scriptural signs and wonders to look towards. The end will come when it comes, there's no rushing it.

But every year at Christmas time I wonder about Soeur Tremblay. How she's holding up.

67 Pieces of Opinion:

Jennifer Bowman said...

i love this post and your writing.

Nate and Kris said...

cjane, I saved reading your post until my twins were asleep and my house was silent. I'm glad I did. Very enjoyable story. I wish I knew more about your 9 month marriage.....I had did not know that about you.

Gina said...

What a mad story. Is there any way that you could trace her and continue where you left off? She sounds like quite a character. I wonder if someone reading your blog will have a connection to her? If you do ever get an inside tip that the end of the world is nigh please promise you will blog it! Apart from a year of praying and repenting I would so enjoy eating Baileys Irish Cream ice cream every evening without worrying about my waistline....

The Forney Four said...

oooooo I just loved this story with all my heart and soul. I had so many instances like this on my mission. I met so many people and heard about so many dreams and trees and Jesus behind the tree with Joseph Smith and fruit flying through the air proclaiming the importance of baptism and much more. At the time it would (gulp) drive me crazy...because I was so tired and cold and listening to one more dream was surely going to send me to dreamland myself right there on their couch. Luckily I never did. I love the Sister Tremblays of the world. they just make my heart happy. And I'm so glad it's not the end of the world yet because I've got a whole list of things left to do.

I bet you could find her (probably you've done this already) on the mission.net site by posting a comment to any current or recent missionary from that mission to see if they knew her.

And I'm so curious about the 9 month marriage thing. (gulp again) That happened to some of my friends and I just know that it must have been so painful for you.

and I'm sorry for being a nosey nancy.

and for blabbing so much in my comment.

Emily said...

Your picture makes me laugh in a your-gorgeous-figure-is-hiding-behind-a-monstrous-coat sort of way, and it makes me cold.

Emily - Good Frau said...

The suspense! I was sure you were going to inform us of her untimely death at the end. But now we'll all have to wonder "how she's holding up."

This was one of my favorite posts.

sarah said...

you should probably point out that that picture is from Ottawa, not Quebec. Were you there during the ice storm?

And, uh, she wrote you twice. Wouldn't her return address be on the envelope?

Janet said...

I actually laughed out loud and said "Courtney, you crack me up!" to my dog.

Fresh Hell, Texas said...

Jane, With all you free time between raising a child and growing another one, I hope that someday you'll share with us what it is like to be on the other side of the door.

I'm always polite but I also always decline to listen (not just to Mormons but anyone, really)

What was it like? Did most people say "no, thank you"? What are you hoping to accomplish in those visits?

I know you are so busy, maybe tuck this away for the future?

Thank you!
Kathleen

Samurai Mom said...

Maybe Soeur Tremblay has a facebook page full of anxoius former missionaries?

Jared and Liam Craig said...

you served in canada awesome!!!!! I'm from Alberta! go to the calgary stampede sometime i'll show ya around!

Emily Murdock said...

Now THAT was a fabulous post. Thanks C.

Jenny loves Louisiana said...

Dear Santa,
All I want for Christmas is Courtneys witty and charming brain.
Thank you.
Jen

Jen said...

A definite favorite! What a mystery.

Tammy (Mom to this crazy bunch) said...

Ohhh... I grew up in Alaska... so I can sympathize with that cold winter. Now I live down the road from you!

Charlotte said...

And now I am concerned about Soeur Tremblay and her little brood. Please let me know how they fair.

Jen Burns said...

What do you mean she got a blessing that told her that?

Amelia said...

I love this post. Thank you for sharing it with us!

Bert Bell said...

An interesting bitter sweet story. Have you tried to looker her up on www.anywho.com? Just a thought!

Todd and Amyjoy said...

Merry Christmas to you!
Loved that post.
I love your writing you are so witty and thoughtful. Reading your blog brightens my day. I want to be a writer someday. I really do!
(You are my favorite blogger, but don't tell Stephanie) :)
Amyjoy from Boise

Amy said...

I think the mystery of it all is best left unsolved. I would be sad to know when the end of the world was coming.

Kim said...

*That* was an awesome post! Loved it loved it loved it!

Of course the funny thing is, if you had kept up with her, then.... if no card came would you be thinking "Now's the time!" or would you think "A years the time!" and would anyone believe you?

But then, if Jesus did return you'd have a split second to say "told you so"

~ The Mullen Family ~ said...

Loved this post! What a story!!! However, I think that in a way it would be better not to know. If you knew, it would be looming. Very mysterious..... and I love how you write. :)

Sinclair said...

Is this she? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qXByDyP6SZU

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Sylvia said...

Fantastic story! So fun...I had a blessing that said I'd never bear children then another that said I would. 43, no biological offspring, and menopause setting in...sometimes things just are what they are blessing or no blessing.

Three Little Brown Kids said...

I can only think of that cold. I grew up right next door in Nova Scotia and while I love, love, love my homeland I am thrilled to peices to have escaped those endless winters.

Emily said...

Hilarious post! I had to stop reading during reading the post and was anxious about hearing that she had died and then...you don't know!! Argh!! How funny!

Thanks for your stories and thanks for your testimony!!

Emily said...

Hilarious post! I had to stop reading during reading the post and was anxious about hearing that she had died and then...you don't know!! Argh!! How funny!

Thanks for your stories and thanks for your testimony!!

diane said...

I too served a mission in the Canada Montreal Mission. It was back in the day...early 80's.
I served in Arvida/Chicoutimi, D'Orval and Sainte Rose. I've been back a couple of times to visit. It is still the best mission in the world.

Butternut Sage Designs said...

Hi Courtney, ditto on all the remarks.,...it was so nice to be engulfed in your words. I can seriously get lost in your writing, and I too was waiting for the end which thank goodness did not end like I had anticipated. Lovely! Have a Very Merry Christmas! ~Donna from Massachusetts....it is 13 degrees here right now I feel your 1998 pain!

Chatty Natty said...

This post and this picture made me smile inside and out. Strange it is how anything about that "curious" place does it to us, eh? And funny thing is that at that very same time, I was on the south shore dining with another Soeur Tremblay and another Guy (Geeee) but eating something much more better than tofu soup. That area was DA heaven, you know. If fact, you do, don't you?

Autumn said...

You've GOT to let us know if/when you find out if she's alive. What a fun read. And is this a first you mentioned your divorce? I gotta tell you I'm dying to know more. Surely there's a good story from a 9 month marriage!

Carrot Jello said...

I'm guessing one of your readers will find her, and then I will get a prize for being right about that.

Geo said...

One of my favorite C Jane stories, ever!

thorney said...

Wonderful story and leaves me pondering there must be some way to find this woman and her family. Perhaps the missionaries there could be of some help to you. Now you have me, and a lot of your other readers I am sure, curious about her and how she is doing.

--Mari

(have you ever written about the none month marriage? I had a 20 year marriage, but God is so good and I finally met the right man and I am blissfully happy despite the ebbs and flows of marriage.)

roseandphil.blogspot.com said...

What! That's it! You've left me in complete curiosity...

Heather said...

You've got to be kidding me! I love it! You have such a great gift... the gift of timing! Merry Christmas!

Melissa said...

Miss c jane..im with Sarah on that one, it looks like Ottawa, which is just as wonderful and intriguing as Quebec.
I remember driving through once, just once thankfully, not being able to read ANY signs. Except nord means north?? except i was was heading east...bummer.
this is after taking french through school...
Please dont ask me if i know who she is just because i live 6 hours from Quebec, its like asking you if you know someone who lives 6 hours from you that I know..likely not..:D,,
happy writing..im sure she is somewhere right now thinking of you.:D
cheers!

jenn said...

I loved this...all day whenever i think about this post, i'll smile. Great story about an interesting lady. & i hope that somewhere, a former missionary received a christmas card from her, and that all will be merry and bright for a while longer...

Darilyn said...

Was the tofu soup because that was part of your vegetarian days? Or did she just have a hankerin' for tofu soup?

Louise said...

I love you. Your writing style is wonderful - I find myself laughing through tears! Merry Christmas to you and yours.

Lucie said...

I m leaving a comment for the first time after reading you for a year...I have always wondered if I was the only one to think that Quebec is cold. I ve been living here for 6 years now, and I hibernate for 6 months. Of course most of the locals probably think I m not though or something(or it is because I m french), but really, I think it s hard to be in good spirits when you want to take walks and it is -25Celcius.Where was sister Tremblay living in? I could always ask around...I d like to know when the end of the world is coming. Or maybe not, this might had some stress...

hautesavings said...

love this post!

I am Lorinda W- you can call me LoW said...

This makes me wonder how old she was then...

Maybe next year will be her time, since apparently the end is 2012.

;-)

annie moffat karcher said...

I loved this. My brother served in Quebec, but he was called to serve in 2005. He didn't like the sub-freezing temperatures either, but he said it is gorgeous up there.

Marianne said...

Another good read! What a fun story...I may tend to believe Souer Tremblay...you see, someone I am intimately connected with was told that she would live to see the Savior's return, to keep herself worthy and ready. She is 52 and is trying oh, so hard to be good!!

Nancy said...

What a perfect story to tell at this time of the year. I love the photo of you standing by the pole. You have survived a LOT, including Tofu soup.

Merry Christmas,

Nancy

Elle Squared said...

Just a thought... maybe you could find her daughter on Facebook? (She is of the age that would probably have a Facebook.) Good luck!

Allison said...

Love your writing! I'm sure you'll get tons of comments about the marriage - announced "No Sex in the City" style :)

It is interesting - I think that happens quite a bit in the LDS culture, but it is never talked about. Although I understand keeping it private for bloggers like yourself, I wish people in the church talked to the Young Women about it a bit more. Whatever the reason - there is probably something young girls could learn from the short marriage stories of wiser women.

julz said...

the second coming could be a year after she passes but it could be a year in the Lords time which who knows how long that is.....

Brenda said...

Maybe she just told you that so she could get more Christmas cards! LOL

And looking at your picture makes me COLD. This is why I was sent to So Cal. I don't think I could have handled those winters! :-)

Fresh Hell, Texas said...

Allison, Jane has mentioned she'd been married before in past posts.

As for the first short marriage, I heard about it from my first close friend who was a Mormon. She told me that it was fairly common and that she herself had done it.

In her words, she really was crazy about the guy but knew he wasn't "the one." She didn't feel right about just living with him, so they married but were not sealed in the temple.

Of course that was her experience, her take on it.

Lauren in GA said...

Oh, such mystery and intrigue.

In a way I want to contact her and ask if I can be on her mailing list.

Nah...it's probably best I just don't know.

I love your writing. Every single post I read I think that.

Grapefruit said...

Cjane, do you read these comments? I think I know Sr. Tremblay. What area was she in? (I was there during 97-98, with Pres. Froerer.)

I, too, was in denial about my coat too. I waited until I was in the dead of Quebec winter to pack my up my RAINCOAT and buy a full length sleeping bag (basically) with a fur hood, and of course, Sorel boots.

Don't you miss it? My husband planned a surprise trip back to Montreal two years ago. It was my first time back. I went back to church to find an investigator I had taught, who had stuck with it for TEN years and was finally baptized, along with her entire family. It is hard to describe how I felt when we re-met.

Anyway, I'm dying to know what area Sr. Tremblay was in, I swear I know her...

(You can email me if you want...grapefruit@dailygrapefruit.com)

Crystal said...

One reader actually posted the thought I had...maybe this is elaborate scheme to receive many Christmas Cards. What a great way to ensure many will keep in touch ;) Happy Christmas!

Geezees Custom Canvas Art said...

Great post...love reading what you write...thanks you!

Justin said...

Jane,

I was a missionary in the CMM from 1996-1998, under President Froerer. I went home right before American Thanksgiving in 1998.

With about 300 missionaries there, I doubt we knew each other, but I served in Repentigny, Cote Vertu, Pie IX, Ste. Foy, La Prairie, and Shawinigan. Just thought I'd share.

This is a nice little story. Thanks for posting.

Have a Merry Christmas!

Chantal said...

Wow, this photo looks like either Quebec city or Old Montreal. I could be wrong on both counts. Soeur Tremblay had 2 kids? Is that possible? I wish you good luck tracking down a Tremblay in Quebec. That's like Park in Korea. For every Michaud, there are 5 Tremblays! Start in Lac St Jean and move outwards. lol.
The cold here in Quebec is not really just cold, it's the humidity! Love these tales of yours. I hope you find your Tremblay.. She sounds like a wonderful lady.

beck said...

Are you going by "Jane" now? Gosh, it really has been too long since we've bonded.

love,
Kentucky

Christine:) said...

What an interesting story...I wonder also what happened to her....thanks for sharing this!

Melissa said...

I saw this picture before I saw the tag on it, and thought: "that's my town!!!" I have several pictures from that vantage point at various seasons. One of my favourite parts of the city. I loved your story, and glad to know that you've trod along my favourite pathways.

Geezees Custom Canvas Art said...

Awesome post...love looking at the pics...and enjoy your writing so much!
Have a fabulous New Year!!!

Tana said...

I had to leave a comment, after blog stalking (is that what it's called?) for so long. My dad served as mission president in Montreal (92ish-95ish), President McKittrick. I can still remember the "bone-cold" (I never understood why it was called that until I lived there) when we would be waiting for the bus stop and the coats that missionaries left hanging in the garage of the mission home.
I have loved reading your blog. Anyway, Great story. If my dad was still alive I would ask him about Sis. Tremblay, he had a great memory for such things and he would get a kick out of this story.

Dreamer said...

Yes you said it perfectly. I don't know if you remember me or not, but I served in CMM, too. I was never your companion (obviously!) but I had Soeur Shockley after you did. I heard many a Soeur Clark story. You described Quebec winters perfectly. You only missed the minor detail of icicles in the nose hairs if you chose to inhale nasally. LOL Love your blog. Give my love to Nie Nie. She is one of my heroes!

Chioma said...

Did you ever get back in touch with her?