Monday, January 4, 2010

Help Meet



I was in the den
when Chup's message beeped in my phone.

On my way home!

Great glory.

The best time of the day is when I get the "On my way home!" text. I always turn to The Chief and say, "Dad is coming home!" and then we do a heart-felt hip-shaking dance routine with our hands waving in the air.

And that is what I was doing when I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. I had been working all day long on housewifery (scrubbing, organizing, bending) and I was about seven inches more than disheveled. I am not the kind of wife who cares much for looking glamorous as my husband crosses the threshold of our home, nor do I have a husband who cares what I look like either, but this look was bordering scary. I didn't look good at all.

My shape was lost in a huge navy t-shirt, stained by snot from the boy I live with (who needs tissue? Honestly.) My gray sweats were heaving from the work it took to stay up around my belly. My face had this pasty look, my pupils were dilated and black residual mascara crumbled around my eyes. And my crowning glory--my hair, you know--was terrible. My stylist Ashlee went on Christmas break and it looked as though I replaced her with a hurricane.

So I texted back.

Just so you know. I look like Garbage Day.

Which meant I looked like the cans of waste we send out to the curb every Tuesday night.

Then my phone beeped again.

Look outside!

A text from my teenage niece Emma.

At first I was hoping she had built a snowman on our front lawn. Next to cats, my son obsesses over snowmen. But Emma is a busy young lady, so I figured her afternoon probably wasn't spent in our front yard secretly rolling snow. Anyway, I slowly climbed up the stairs, crossed the living room and looked outside our front window.

No snowman, but . . .

the most beautiful sunset melting west in the sky. Pinks and purples swirling together in perfect vibrancy. A display of nature so glorious it cause me to reaffirm, "There is a God!"

I sat spellbound for several minutes watching my sky's version of the borealis. Pinks shadows on my cheeks.

And I thought about this talk by President Hinckley about women:

"There came first the forming of heaven and earth, to be followed by the separation of the light from the darkness. The waters were removed from the land. Then came vegetation, followed by the animals. There followed the crowning creation of man. Genesis records that "God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good" (Genesis 1:31).

But the process was not complete.

"For Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

"And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

"And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

"And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman" (Genesis 2:20–23).

And so Eve became God's final creation, the grand summation of all of the marvelous work that had gone before."

Then my phone beeped again.

It was Chup.

I like Garbage Day.

He reassured.

But I was no longer worried about that.

104 Pieces of Opinion:

merideth said...

wow maybe my fave post ever. so cute and so well put.

Jenny said...

i was in awe of the sunset here in Az last evening. I saw the same thing, even took a picture..love that you noticed it too!

Jared and Liam Craig said...

this makes my heart do a weird melty/ spiritual thing

Lucky ♥ Holly said...

Some times garbage day comes more than once a week at our place too. So glad my husband likes me how ever I am, glam or other.
xx

Lindsey said...

Wouldn't it be nice though, if women were more like the sky? They could work all day and then just magically become captivating colors that are different every night.

Maybe the magic is that husbands brains see that even when you are still encrusted with the labors of the day.

Good one CJANE!

Jennifer said...

Thank you. I needed this today.

Louis Duke said...

Well said.

jeanne said...

Perfect post. well done.

Butternut Sage Designs said...

WOW! I love genesis! resolved to read the entire bible this year....on numbers, not as pretty as genesis but, many lessons. Sort of like the ones I get from YOU!!!!! in a bitsy way of course.

Katie H said...

I love love love this post. If it's possible, I'm smiling & tearing up all at the same time. Isn't it nice how husbands can look past the awfulness we see & only see beauty? Love.

jeanine said...

loved this post! Thank you!!

dougandcheryl said...

That is beautiful.

The Forney Four said...

ohhhh this post made me cry. Thanks. Can I be you when I grow up? I won't even mind the snot on the shirt.

nikkipicky said...

REALLY REALLY like this one! Thanks for the great morning uplift. :) Just reaffirms why I visit every day!

scraphappymama said...

Loved it. A good reminder of the beauty of womanhood!!

dalene said...

i love this post. it's definitely going in the primer. you know which one. xo

cw

Marianne said...

Lovely and well said! (and GOOD for Chup!)I was driving to Costco in American Fork when I saw the sunset last night. I had to pull over and snap a photo of it! I haven't pulled it off of the cell phone yet but if it turned out I'll post it!

Jamie said...

I agree with merideth. This may be my fave post ever.

Beautiful!

Cheryl said...

I wouldn't be exaggerating if I said that pretty much every day is "garbage day" at our house; I'm definitely a t-shirt and jeans kind of girl (hah! Almost 50 and I still call myself a girl!) I haven't worn makeup in years, but back when I did, my husband always told me how much more he liked me without makeup. And you know what? He still can't keep his hands to himself, even after all these years. There's some major eye-rolling going on from the kids, but also a lot of giggles and smiles.

InkMom said...

I call that looking like a booger woman. Say it southern -- it fits better that way!

Excellent post -- thanks for sharing this.

Geo said...

Oh, how I love you.

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Tina said...

After 20 years I my heart still skips when I hear the garage door go up and its him, my husband. And...we have garbage day a few times a week around here, no lie. So often disheveled and not showered by bed my husband could stand in for the garbage man.

hellomynameissusan said...

Okay, so last night Chup won once & for all, the most romantic award. That was beautiful!

Becky said...

I agree: best. post. ever. Thank you for starting my day in the right place.

Mayday said...

I haven't commented in a long time, but this was good. Super good m'lady.

Shelley said...

Lovely.

Carol said...

Oh my . . . what an amazing love story - it made my heart melt this morning - Chup sure knows what to say huh? AND . . . you can tell it comes from the heart. LOVE you guys!

Cardalls said...

oh we've been having garbage day quite often around here due to a difficult pregnancy and 4 other children to care for. PJ's are the name of the game many times. the other day i actually showered, put on some makeup and wasn't wearing pj's/sweats. he told me i looked fabulous. fortunately he also thinks i'm fabulous on garbage day :) good husbands we have!

Laura said...

My heart just melted right into my guts. I loved this... but now I have a melty heart.

Wendi said...

That's cute that you and The Chief do a happy dance when you find out Chup is coming home.

I love President Hinckley. I love beautiful sunsets. And I love the way you write. Thanks! :)

Brian and Tonya said...

Awwww, that's so sweet. What a perfect description of how a marriage should be. And beautiful sunsets sing to my soul too.

Dmoore said...

Beautiful writing! Always a positive thing to realine our perspective with what truly is beauty!

Janet said...

It WAS a beautiful sunset yesterday and I even commented to my daughter Laura (visiting from NY!) that I should set my phone alarm to send me outdoors at sunset everyday so that I could enjoy the show.

I'm with Chup - I love Garbage Day - maybe not for the same reason:) I really love getting all the garbage out of my home!

littlepotatoes said...

"I like garbage day"
Awesome

Amy said...

I really needed this today. It's so easy to forget my true purpose as wife and mother sometimes when I realize at dinner time that I haven't showered, that I ran errands in my faded old workout clothes, and that my hubby will be home any minute. But thankfully, he likes garbage day too.

Caroline of Salsa Pie said...

I loved this post. LOVED it.

I almost always look like "Garbage Day" when my husband comes home from work...but we all are just so happy to see him, and I guess our smiles say it all. He's greeted by 4 girls every single day, and he always says it doesn't get better than that.


Thanks for this. I needed to read this today.

Jennifer said...

I love this post! A lot of commenters pointed to what a swell guy Chup is. I agree, but I think this post said more about YOU. Yes, Chup can look past the packaging and love you, but you do so yourself first. "He reassured. But I no longer was worried about that." And, I suspect, that is a big part of why Chup loves you.

Doty Family said...

Nothing like a few tears to start the day. Beautiful post Courtney!

Salmon Tolman Family said...

This is one of my favorite posts ever!!!

Tamsin said...

Yup, we were watching the sunset last night in good old Spanish Fork too. From the Macey's parking lot, no less.

ForeverRhonda said...

That was wonderful...especially for one who has been struggling with religion lately. I love that Eve and women are the summation to all of creation..the perfect ending to all that is wonderful and good. :) Makes being a woman kind of wonderful...like the cherry on top of a sundae.

michelley77 said...

Great sakes almighty, I love this post!

Thanks CJane!

Emily and Tom said...

I was just thinking that I'm having a garbage day...7+ months pregnant and in my hubby's oversized sweatshirt... This post totally made me cry. Maybe it's just the hormones...but thanks.

Charlotte said...

This just might be my favorite cjane post.

Which is why I'm taking the time to de-lurk and actually comment.

Sarah Hull said...

whoa. that gave me chills.

Torrey Jayne said...

Thank you so much, you have no idea how much I needed this post today. :)

Amelia said...

I'm going to ditto what Janet said:

"I'm with Chup - I love Garbage Day - maybe not for the same reason. I really love getting all the garbage out of my home!"

I love that all I have to do is put that can of stuff I don't want or need out on the street & someone will take it away for me.

Sara Ballstaedt said...

That was so sweet, I really liked this post. I think I needed it.

Chelsea said...

I was JUST reading that part of Genesis last night before I went to bed!! Then I opened up your blog first thing this morning and this is what I read :). Marvelous!

Tracy said...

Wow! I just love your blog!
This post was great! You are great!


Tracy :-)

Noelle said...

I loved this!!! Thanks!

Lindsey Springfield said...

that was B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L!

Sky said...

I just want you to know I love reading your blog and think of your posts often through the day. I am so often nodding my head or getting teary with recognition as I read. Thank you for this today and for sharing everyday!

Hirano Family said...

best. post. ever!

(and my husband likes garbage day too)

elka said...

thanks

Stephanie Stearns Dulli said...

About ten minutes ago I got my very own "On my way home" text from my actor husband. And while my little snot monster naps I am doing laundry and reading blogs. And I absolutely look like Garbage Day.
I think I'll tidy up a bit before he gets home...you see he's bringing food. And I think that deserves a brushing of the hair. I mean...since the baby is asleep.

Sarah said...

Love your description of yourself...sounds familiar!

uniquelynat said...

we had the most beautiful AZ sunset yesterday too!!! i wanted to take a picture...alas my hip was hurting (again) and i had no desire to hunt for the camera...only to stand at the window and behold. (and not move)

beautiful post!

Elizabeth said...

Beautiful post, Courtney.

And the texts were perfect. You are surrounded by truly wonderful people.

{ang} said...

Love this one.

Tenley said...

Love this post cjane

it is worth making a first time comment

Debbie said...

Just beautiful... I love Chup (in an appropriate way)

Dave said...
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Tauna said...

ops. I was signed in as my husband...What I meant to say is beautiful post today!

Carol said...

What a sweet husband! Nice post!

kam said...

you have a beautiful way with words and a very refreshing point of view. Today just got a lot better.....Thank you! :)

The Warner Family said...

amen sister amen...

thorney said...

you have lightened my heavy heart today with your writing. smiling and teary eyed as i absorb all that you've said.

and i too am blessed with a man who doesn't care how i look, he loves me no matter what.

andrea said...

The sunset yesterday was beyond amazing! I hope we get another beauty tonight!

Gina said...

I like this!

i'm lindsey. said...

love it! you should totally check out "created to be his helpmeet" by debi pearl.
it's an EXCELLENT book about 'wifehood' ;)

Katie C said...

Tears....
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Magdalena said...

Seldom do you cease to make me misty-eyed dear cyber friend, but this had me in actual tears. As I type away here in my navy sweats, I feel a thank you is in order. Thank you Jane.

Damaris said...

Long live men who like garbage day!

Somers Family said...

Isn't that what marriage is all about?

Jen said...

I loved that !

Ruby Cottage said...

My husband fell in love with me in a robe with no makeup, and still likes me that way after 34 years, so I guess he likes garbage day as well. Beautiful post. Would have liked a pic of the sunset though!

moshell's lilbit of space said...

that made me happy sad!!!

HomeSpun Threads said...

Been there, many times! I posted about being my husbands Help Meet a long time ago and sometimes I go back to read it to remind myself of my purpose as his wife. It's nice to be loved for who you are and not what you look like. ; )

kelly said...

i adore my help meet which makes me try to remember my widow friends, so sad not to have that feeling at the end of the day! love your post!

Jocelyn said...

how romantic. jealous.

Lizzy said...

this quote was on the bathroom wall of my freshman year apartment. a powerful and uplifting way to start every day. i haven't thought about it in a long while. thanks for posting it!

Christine:) said...

Wow- so eloquently written:) I don't know what else to say but I truly enjoyed reading this post. It just makes me want to sit back and enjoy everything God gave us and how He sees us in His own eyes.

Jeannie said...

now that's romantic.

amydear said...

I've never commented on your blog, cjane, although I secretly long to move back to Provo so we can be neighbors. If this post is what 2010 brings, it is going to be a beautiful year. Satisfying, thought-provoking, uplifting. Wow.

Melissa said...

As I sit here reading your post and I am still in the same sweats I slept in last night (it is 8:30 p.m.), I feel beautiful. Thank you for the reminder from Pres. Hinkley. I just love you!

The Redhead Riter said...

Sometimes you just need to hear it... You are a beautiful woman, inside & out. You are an exquisite mother, who can make a way out of no way. YOU ARE A GREAT MOM !!! You are doing a fantastic job and are very loved!!!♥ ♥ ♥♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ post this on the blog of moms...Mom's who always put their kids first and who balance it all. I just did!

b. said...

Nice Work!
(love this)(love you)

jacqueline said...

it is so refreshing to read that you have days just like me. thank you! your post also touched me!

Kristy said...

I am a new follower and since joining this is my favorite post also. It's nice to stop, take a moment and realize how much beauty we've been given. Love this post!

sarah baldwin said...

cjane... i have been away for a long while. i am now without my help meet. but i look forward longingly for the day i will get a text from him or a new help meet that says "i'm on my way home". you have a glorious way of writing and making the little things... big.

Jen Olson Brown said...

Beautifully written. Well done!! Here's to another year of great writing!

Beth said...

That was just what I needed.

Glitzy Glass said...

wonderful to a new viewer.

Geezees Custom Canvas Art said...

lovely post...thank you!

Sara said...

Chup has some of the best answers.

beck said...

You're great. And pretty. And great.

Hannah M said...

I just clicked on the link and read that whole talk from President Hinckley. I am a Christian woman who sometimes struggles with the negative and demeaning attitude often displayed by men towards women within my faith, whether that's insinuating they're less capable, less important, or just hammering in again and again how 'the man is the head of the woman'. When reading President Hinckley's talk what i got was such a sense of love and respect for women - and what a special place in creation God gave them, without resorting to demeaning language about them or making out that they're slightly below men. I was really touched by it and i'm going to pass it on to my husband.

So thank you so much for this post, CJane!

Ry and Kris Jones said...

Holy Moly! If this isn't what I needed today, then I don't know what it was. Thank you!

2busy said...

Great post! What a wonderful husband!

Coral said...

I saw that sunset in UT county, too. It re-directed my thoughts, as well.
Thank you for posting this! I needed this today.

lillysmum said...

Oh, man. That nearly made me cry.

SarahHub said...

BIG HAPPY SIGH.

Thanks for the reminder. I think every mother needs to bookmark this post and read it now and again.

Thanks.