Monday, February 22, 2010

Never Underestimate the Collective Power of Estrogen



It was Saturday mid-morning when Ellen stopped by.

Ellen is a student at BYU who is graduating in clothing and textiles. She also happens to love couture and has recently taken up designing and creating her own clothes. (Like this fantastic gold number and the glory of this petal dress.) When I heard she might be available to make some postpartum house dresses (yes, house dresses, but no moo-moos) for me I asked her to come over post haste.

Even though we had never actually met.

But when I opened up the door to meet Ellen I was filled with giddy anticipation. I loved her already. Her self-created blue shirt with silk roses and dark brown hair looked like a vision on my white armchair. She was heaven-sent, I knew it.

So we talked dresses and patterns and zippers and buttons and all the while The Chief threw Booty like confetti all over the front room. We talked about the complications of a postpartum body--the aftermath of an empty womb, the leaking of a full chest, the hot flashes, the unshakable desire of feeling desirable again. And I touched a dozen different swatches with the imprint of my thumb.

It was most glorious.

The energy in the room was so happy, when Chup walked in he was a bit overwhelmed. Later he said to me, "There was so much energy going on, I didn't know how to react." Which explained why he turned into Captain Shy when we asked him to take some photos for our respective blogs. "I married Mr. Darcy." I explained to Ellen, remembering Collin Firth's face anytime he was in the presence of the Bennet sisters.

When Ellen left with sketch pad and gold ruffled flats, Chup and I took The Chief out for fish tacos. It was over lunch when Chup and I discussed Ellen's visit.

"I think that energy is created when two women respect and admire each other." I suggested. "And what if every woman felt that way towards every other woman? Imagine the energy that would fill this planet. It would cure disease, stop wars and wipe out social ills." I predicted, rather daringly.

"You are probably right." Chup said remembering the morning's aura filling our whole house.

I mean, we know the damage that can be done when two women war against each other. Terrible, lasting effects that can destroy souls and ruin families. Think what could have happened if Sister Capulet loved Sister Montague. No really, think about it . . .

A day later a follow-up email came from Ellen.

"Do you know my Aunt Lani?" she asked.

Lani? My dream-boat, well-read, deep-thought idol? YES! Of course. I could easily see how these lovely woman could share dna. Happy, happy connection made.

And I am starting to think, if Lani, Ellen and I were ever to get together, our united spirits might be able to rid this nation of any lingering recession.

Don't be surprised.



The Ellen Switzer Project,
is going to be a regular posting on my
Provo Blog. Read more about it.



On dear c jane today:
PUUUUURSE!


My Community:
I am following this discussion,
What do you do to Achieve a Balance in Life?
Interesting responses.

47 Pieces of Opinion:

We live in a Zoo! said...

So what are you waiting for? Team up! The world needs it ;D
And I love that blue shirt with the white roses!

Pam said...

The word we use at our house for this kind of energy is gynergy.

The Boob Nazi said...

BYU has a major in clothing and textiles?

c jane said...

Zoo, I know. I do too. I told her to put a couple roses on one of my dresses.

Gynergy. PERFECT.

Boob Nazi, yes. Your name is awesome too.

Al said...

"I think that energy is created when two women respect and admire each other." YES! You are so right!

I went to an all-women's college and this is how I feel when all my girls are back together. Our husbands/boyfriends/fiances usually just back out of the room slowly. My fiance says "you all talk so fast, and there is so much excitement in the room, I just can't handle it." Total "gynergy" awesomeness.

WendyLou said...

I. am. seriously. jealous!! A personal seamstress??!! Incredible!! AND also lovin' those chunky blonde highlights :)

Tammy (Mom to this crazy bunch) said...

Respect and admire... beautiful words.

Ms. Natalie said...

Oh man, I COMPLETELY agree!! I never got along with girls when I was growing up. Now that we are all older, I have tried to mend the rifts....with no prevail. They insist on staying full of hate. Could you imagine if we could forgive the hurt we all caused one another....powerful, I tell you.

ForeverRhonda said...

I lurve your hair! And I lurve her shirt! She should make a website because I would sooo totally be shopping there all too much!

BARGAIN BEX said...

there is no greater feeling on this great green earth than to be in the presence of women that exude happiness. nothing compares. absolutely nothing.

Brittany said...

I just recently started reading your blog, so this is the first time I've commented. I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for knowing how to say things so well. You've added a little burst of sunlight to my days.

madsta said...

for the good of the world- get together! also i loooove ure cardigan and i love the blonde in your hair!

Nat said...

You look FABULOUS in that picture!! How far along are you? - you definetly don't look it in that shot.

Brooke said...

Wow! Last night I was trying to explain Relief Society to a friend, and this explains perfectly what I was trying to tell her! Maybe the gynergy is just the physical manifestation of charity...

wishful nals said...

LOVE that blue shirt! xo!

Mommy Elizabeth said...

She looks like she could be a long lost sister!!! Love your hair by the way.. maybe I should do that, I need some spice!

Anonymous said...

The women of "The Real Housewives of... Orange County, New Jersey, Atlanta" or wherever those crazy women live need to read this post.

michelle said...

Hello! I'm an avid reader of your blog. I just wanted to say say, I think I have spotted your 2 little name "hints" in this post...

Kara said...

Amen Sista!

And, in my experience, women CREATING together yeild even greater energy.

queenieweenie said...

Ellen is a DOLL. I had the privilege of meeting Ellen when she was a cute little Mia Maid and I was her leader. She is indeed a special girl. You will love working with her. She is talented and amazing!

nycbride said...

For a second there I thought it was you in that awesome blue shirt! You totally look like sisters! Glad to hear the experience was so positive. You certainly conveyed it well (what else is new...)

Carrot Jello said...

I think your baby will be named "Blessing".
I was going to say, "Prayer", because if you say your sons name, and add prayer (you gotta say it fast)it kind of goes (o.k., not really), however I changed my mind.

WV: resess
Somebody thinks I need to go out to play.

Carrot Jello said...

Annnd, I'd be wrong because "Blessing" could be considered a noun.
Virtuous?
Lovely?
Good Report?
Praiseworthy?
Admonition?
Paul?
Indeed?
There's not prize is there.
That's your other blog that I can't leave comments on.
*sigh*

Carrot Jello said...

I meant to say "no prize".

Carrot Jello said...

or "not a prize"
whichever is grammatically correct.

The Novelist said...

I love the idea of a dress made specifically for postpartum. Not just nursing clothes mind you, but one specifically made for the ever changing shape of the woman's body after giving birth. I came home looking like I was still eight months pregnant and was sad to see that only maternity clothes still really fit. Hurray for your opportunity!

Charlyn said...

Well, I was up in the middle of the night nursing my little boy last night with Season 1 of Everwood to keep me company and who did I spot on my television screen but your Mr. Darcy?! I'm such a nerd, I actually thought "Hey, I know him!"

Our Lovely Life said...

You are so right! And all that energy would make the world such a lovely place! She sounds like a wonderful person! And I checked out those two dresses, they are ADORABLE!! I can't wait to see what she whips up for you!

Mike and Jess said...

I love all of the "Glory" of this post;) I'm excited to see the new dresses.

Ross & Amanda Goodman- but mostly Amanda :) said...

This is the best title of any blog post ever written!

dmarie said...

ellen looks a lot like your lucy. just noticing...

Anonymous said...

Can't help but notice the totally different feelings I get when reading your posts and Nie's.

lawdy said...

sweet, sweet, tiny little world--how about a poem about taking a map in your hands and wadding it up so that it's in a little paper ball. Well, meanwhile we all overlap and our lives overlap--like a great big brainstorm paper. Ellen is the BOSS. Love her. Yes, I am her aunt.

DeeAura said...

HAHA! Oh, there are a million reasons I keep reading your blog, and today's post is a prime example. :) It made me smile. Also, I think I agree with every word.

McEngland like the McCountry said...

Great blog today, my friend! Ellen's designs are super rad and cute... also, you NAILED the post partum experience with your brilliant wording "the aftermath of an empty womb..the unshakable desire of feeling desirable again". Hats off to you, Cjane, you're the cat's pajamas!

thorney said...

I love Ellen's designs--thank you for linking me/all of us up to her. I love the black petal dress--I have a wedding next September that I think I need it for.

You post today brought back so many memories and tears of happy memories for me. When I gave birth to my first born, Dylan, who will be 30 on March 14, I was in shock over what my body was going through. I thought I'd have the baby and leave the hospital in my prepregnancy jeans and shirt. Wasn't happening and I was distraught that I had to leave the hospital in maternity wear.

I'd also had a C-section and after about 10 days my Mom came over to take me and baby out to shop for some new outfits that I could be comfortable in and nurse in. It was a happy day together coming home with large bags of clothes.

I love that you are doing this for yourself--your spirit will soar :)

--Mari

Ashlee said...

Your hair is looking awesome. Seriously. And I'm not THE "Ashlee" responsible. But I think I'd like her because we're both double E.

Moddy said...

Love the outfits both of you were wearing. Can't wait to see what she makes for you. And I'm privileged enough to know Lani too, and does she make the world a better place!

Ashlee said...

P.S. I LOVE your baby's name.
But don't spell it weird. Not creative. Just normal.
I know what I'm talking about. I was born in Provo and I'm a double E.

As Told By Molly said...

I survived postpartum because of my house dresses. Couture chubby is like well dressed thin.

Alexa Mae said...

Well you are going to be the most stylish post partum in provo! And especially with that gorgeous new hair color. Love it court. I know this kinda of energy you are talking about, there is nothing quite like it, is there? Love you.

thisnewplace said...

did you notice you guys totally look related?

Polly R said...

She looks like your sister Lucy in that photograph!
I love her shirt too. As a textile design student myself I am very jealous of her! (and you come to that!)
xxx

carrie said...

You are exactly right about that estrogen.

Exactly. ;)

Kjrsten said...

this makes me happy!

I do so love ellen's style!

I can't wait to watch this unfold...

Anonymous said...

You look amazing in this picture! No one would believe you are in your 3rd trimester, as you look tiny!

Sew It To Me said...

Thanks for posting about Ellen. We love her site and designs. in part because of your feature we interviewed her and will be spotlighting her on our blog this Sunday. Thanks again!

Eva & Vanessa
Sew It To Me Duo