There was one comment in particular that made my ego melt and humbled me properly. The comment is from Geo, a woman who is a gift to this planet in so many ways:
Honey pie, strip existence down to essentials and your will's really the only thing that's yours to offer anyway. If you're putting that on the table, then you bet it's enough. It's plenty. It's everything!
I've been thinking a lot lately about the word privilege and how it relates to working through hard situations, healing tough relationships, and conquering all sorts of troubles. It's a privilege to struggle (though I personally don't go looking for a fight) and claim the rewards when the hell parts have passed. Joy as exquisite as was the pain is a great pattern, once you finally get to that gorgeous joy end of things.
It'll be worth it. It's worth it now. I'm so happy for you that there's one more person to have the privilege of loving and knowing and raising coming to you, and so soon after Ever. You're blessing your children too by ushering another soul in. You're blessing the world. It all sounds so cheesy, but think of all the people who could thank you with all their hearts, if only they knew what (who) was coming into their lives soon.
Baby smiles. Tiny fingernails. Neck nuzzling. Fresh wrinkly skin. Yummy sweetness.
Thanks Geo. Thanks Darly. Thank everyone. I am lucky to have you all.
31 Pieces of Opinion:
yes, I needed that too! thanks darly :)
I think I'm going to print that comment, hang it on my wall - memorize it.
Wow. So profound, so beautiful. Geo rocks.
I just read that comment 12 times. My 5th baby is 7 weeks old and oh boy the struggle is real! Geo said just the thing I needed to hear today. It is so so worth it.
So my question is, when Rachel showed up at your door bearing gifts, did you open it or did she have to beat the door down? ;)
I admire people who can write what my soul is thinking. I am not good at putting my feelings into words. I am not of child-bearing age...just grandchild loving! But those thoughts were so touching and never go away! Thank you so much for posting.
I saw you yesterday walking with The Chief and Ever. I wanted to stop and say Hi and Thank You for your blog, but didn't want to be stalker-ish. So I wished you well in my heart and drove on!
That Geo is a GEM!
That comment is so beautifully true! Specially the end, the little finger nails, neck snuggles and all :)
And we need you & your thoughts, more than you know.
Thanks for posting this. I got lost in all the comments & missed this one. And need it today, as my 3-month-old fights me with grouchiness. I love it when I can hear inspiring words from other moms...
I'm glad you got so many comments, I hope you're feeling better!
I tried to comment too but my computer wouldn't recognize a comment area...
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I am now a Geo follower for sure!!! What a loving, generous, and hopeful heart! You Morman Mom bloggers keep sucking me in deeper and deeper.
I have been thinking lots about the comments posted yesterday by women who are struggling to have children but couldn't get it all out nearly as beautifully as Geo did. I'd like to add that struggling is not a contest or in any way measurable. It is one of those things (much like love) that should not, cannot really, be compared.
Now where all the inspiring Jewish Mom blogs?
Love that! I'm waiting for my own joy to arrive (hopefully in a week or two), and if the joy is indeed equal to the pain this will be one precious baby!
xoxo
Oh dear. This amazing comment from Geo is such a gift! It brought me back to a couple of months ago when I was so sick with pregnancy ailments I thought I could never make myself do it again. I'm still waiting for my first darling baby due in June but I'm anticipating amazing baby snuggled and a million difficult trials to come. What a blessing to have a friend like Geo sharing her inspiring words!
yes go geo. that was beautiful. and so happy to hear your heart is feeling happier. :>
and those earrings are dang cute!
and go compassion, it can do wonders.
go you. that's all for now.
I loved reading that. My baby was due the same day as your Ever, but she came a couple weeks early... now I feel like I want another one! Even with all the yucky pregnancy blahness. Loved this comment, and love you!!
oh- and I love love love those earrings. So springy!
That Georgia, she is a dear one.
Geo is one of the greatest things that has ever been created by our Creator. Serio.
Geo is...she is amazing.
To be happy for someone who has something you don't (even though you've longed for what they have.), is the best kind of person to be. And to not be bitter, and resent people, but to be encouraging instead?
Remarkable.
I want to be like her when I grow up.
Seriously.
Erma Bombeck wrote, "If I had to live my life over again....instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy and complaining about the shadow over my feet, I'd have cherished every minute of it and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was to be my only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.". Remember not to struggle against your situation, struggle through it. It will be over before you know it! Best wishes!
What beautiful words from Geo. I'm so glad you got perked up just like you wanted. I love the pregnant you! (Well I love you, but the pregnant you has a special glow and sauciness about it) So even though you don't feel it, it shows through your writing.
I adore you and the super closeness you have to that still small voice. You have really mastered determining if it is mind, body or spirit and I truly admire that. You are an example.
I miss you on the good ole FB.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, my first child a friend's mother wrote me the most touching letter. It meant the world to me, I still hold her words in my heart.
I am glad that someone found the words that you will hold in your heart.
best,
elena
"Joy as exquisite as was the pain is a great pattern, once you finally get to that gorgeous joy end of things."
That spoke VOLUMES to me. Thanks, Geo! And press on, dear Cjane! We love ya.
"Be overwhelmed. It is scary as hell, but instead of drowning in it, one must turn it into a positive energy. Focus on what you can do, not on what you can't, because in the end you are limitless. Think in volume. Think in magnitude. Think in extent. Reach and do not let the reach disintegrate, Exist in absolute potential. Own this mindset and you will be free." - Unknown
what a great comment. it that okay if i pretend its for me too. is it ever easy? great words from geo
My last blog post was about what my body has gone through to bring eight beautiful children into this world. It was incrediby difficult.
But I am 36 yrs old and I can say that I have used my time here on Earth well so far. I see so many of the rewards, even though we are in the midst of the challenges.
I am currently as size 3x. My body bears all the scars of battle. I am working on the weight loss and do plan to have a "mommy makeover" when I get all of the extra weight off. I feel no guilt about it either :)
The misery and the damage to my body were nothing compared to the joy of raising my children. Nothing :)
Hopefully you can take some comfort in the freshness of spring!
I agree that Geo is a gift to this planet. Three cheers for Georgia!
Georgia is my band aid. It's her gift. And sometimes it's Geo alone who keeps me from whining about pregnancy because there is no one more nurturing and motherly in all my world and I know she'd trade places with my bloated, barfy self in a heartbeat. Hang in there, cjane! And hug G for me, too! XO
i love that comment...and your openness...in sharing your struggles, which are so real to most women, and hardly anyone ever mentions. geo is correct...the joy will far surpass the struggle, as i'm sure it has for you with the chief and ever. and you're allowed to feel however you want...you're doing the hard work!!
That was beautiful. I too am going to print it and read it often, possibly memorize it. I needed that so much. Thank you.
Have you had a sonogram yet? This sounds kind of like when I was pregnant with...TWINS!
So late to finally checking up on the gestation news. Congratulations! You make some of the best babies around, so I'm glad you're in for another go.
Bless that Geo. Bless her. She's one of the few people who let their soul shine through.
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