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Hi - I left you a comment on this very blog story ...

2010-09-13T22:28:38.603-06:00

Hi - I left you a comment on this very blog story but I guess you never approved it. It would be cool if you let people who do not know you but do read your blog the rules regarding comments. what criteria make the cut?
I read three blogs regularly (daily) - yours I read semi-regularly (I check in once a week). I do not understand why this blog has issues with comments. the other blogs i read, I can make a comment, negative or positive, anonymous or not and they will get published. could you enlighten us (or at least me) what you need from a reader in order to post their comment?
Thanks so much.
Gail

Dear Sister White, I empathize with you, it's...

2010-09-01T23:10:08.529-06:00

Dear Sister White,

I empathize with you, it's complicated having loved ones under constant public scrutiny. It makes us all crazy at times.

How you ever got through Simon Cowell is a wonder. You must really believe in your daughter, as you should, she's got incredible talent.

Best wishes,
c jane

If I were Brooke and my mom just wrote that, I wou...

2010-09-01T14:49:17.848-06:00

If I were Brooke and my mom just wrote that, I would feel so dumb and be really mad at her! It was a lame insincere video MOM. Oh and Cjane never made any rude, or untruthful comments about your daughter. That was the rest of the world, you better get used to it if your daughter is going to be a "BIG STAR."

2010-09-01T12:57:44.571-06:00

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Dear c jane: I’m Brooke White’s mom. I have neve...

2010-09-01T12:55:42.351-06:00

Dear c jane:

I’m Brooke White’s mom. I have never responded to a blog or comment before, ever in my life, and Brooke wouldn’t want me to. I don’t have a blog, and I rarely read blogs, expect your sister, Stephanie’s, which I enjoy a lot when I have a minute. I find it an interesting phenomenon that one can say whatever one feels on a blog and hide behind the technology as though we are not really speaking about a real person or people who have hearts and real feelings, because it’s not to their face. This is really sad to me. I would rather have this conversation face-to-face, as I think you are a lovely woman with so much good to do, and I’d like to have a sincere moment with you. However, this is the best we have so I will do the best I can. Your children are beautiful, and I know how much you love them, I can tell. I have a beautiful daughter who I love the way you love yours, and I know how much it would hurt you if anyone spoke untruths about her, and shared damaging words that are hard to take back, for all to see. I need you to know that your words and those of others are a misrepresentation on every level of who Brooke is. It is not necessary for me to number all of the charitable contributions that she makes each week, month, or year, but they are many. She is a giver, not a taker and has tirelessly worked hard to make sure she is always giving to the greater good. She recently left our family vacation mid-way to do an event for a young woman who was dying, and she was very humbled, and always is, by the experience of getting to help in some small way those who are in need. Over a year ago, she did the same for an event in Gilbert to benefit your own sister and husband and children after their tragic accident. She really wanted to do something to help, and felt blessed to have the honor. I believe they raised a good amount of money which is what she had hoped for, to ease some of their burdens. I’ve been able to take part in some of these charities, and I witness firsthand the love and concern that Brooke has for those in need. She will continue to do as much as she can to help, when she can. From what you have said, it seems you don’t understand or appreciate the fact that in life unexpected things happen, and plans must change. If this hasn’t happened to you yet, I can assure you it will someday, and I pray that there will be understanding in your behalf. I daily read a book written by a man that I love, Gordon B. Hinckley. A few days ago this is what I read, and his counsel and wisdom seem fitting here: Esteem For Others, “Do not indulge in put-downs, in pessimism, in self-recrimination. Never make fun at the expense of another. Look for virtue in the lives of all with whom you associate.” He also shares a relevant scripture, “Therefore, strengthen your brethren in all your conversation, in all your prayers, in all your exhortations, and in all your doings.” Cjane, perhaps this is your aim, but this time you missed the mark. I’m sad, and I don’t want to hurt you or make you feel bad, but as a mom I’m asking for you to do the right thing, and please think through things before you write, and ask yourself if it was about one you love, would you say it? Brooke asked me not to respond, as she knows this is part of the territory of her business, and she respects you, but I had to…I hope you can understand.

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I rarely read comments on here but had to do it fo...

2010-08-28T11:42:31.244-06:00

I rarely read comments on here but had to do it for this one...51 didn't seem too formidable to wade through. Because I'm not involved at all with either party, I think I'm pretty neutral. Brooke White seems really cute and nice. My thoughts also, however, gravitated to the keeping-your-word business transaction story that someone referenced here (just read the same story the other day).

Tough call. We all make choices and have to live with them either way. I try to think of my own (all-too-frequent) poor choices as being the practice round for bigger ones that will come up later (where I will make the right one, of course!) Every time I find myself judging someone unfairly, it isn't a week before I find myself in a similar situation and curse myself. So maybe I should judge unfairly, so that I can find myself deciding between major gigs?

And, I personally got a giggle out of the Miss Mary Mack reference. I think that means I should be in the 4th grade as well.

OH THE INTRIGUE!! I can't wait to see why Broo...

2010-08-27T23:02:30.385-06:00

OH THE INTRIGUE!! I can't wait to see why Brooke was whisked away from the rooftop! I just bet it is something major...and there is going to be some people that are going to feel really bad for being mean to her. Like maybe....she is singing for dying Haitian orphans...or she was called on a mission...or she's pregnant and the morning sickness is just too much...or maybe she is coming to Louisiana and singing for us folks down here who don't like to butcher and hack people for such small things.

I agree with "Nichole and Jeremy" about ...

2010-08-27T19:59:22.195-06:00

I agree with "Nichole and Jeremy" about the comment section. The drama is what I love. It was realy good a month or so ago when there was no moderation and the gloves were off. Great stuff. Now that the comments are moderated here and there aren't any comments allowed on the "Nie and You" blog, both have gotten a little boring.

She did not look very sincere or sad at all. And t...

2010-08-27T16:37:40.960-06:00

She did not look very sincere or sad at all. And the fact that she totally said she had something bigger and better offered. Lame. She had a prior commitment, to YOU! Whatever.

I love Brooke but sometimes things come up - no bi...

2010-08-27T15:22:03.791-06:00

I love Brooke but sometimes things come up - no big deal. I'm sure she'll make good.
And not forgetting isn't really forgiving is it?

Yeah , maybe her video apology could have been a t...

2010-08-27T15:21:53.006-06:00

Yeah , maybe her video apology could have been a tad bit more creative and sincere. Brooke White came and performed at a small benefit concert for a young 22 year old girl dying from cancer in the small city of North Ogden. She flew up that same day and put on an awesome concert, she really is a very sweet person!

And, for the record... there is a record being kep...

2010-08-27T11:51:12.401-06:00

And, for the record...
there is a record being kept, right?
I thought Mary Matt was a combo wife/husband blogger name.
Had I known it was your real name, Mary, I wouldn't have sang my little song.
So, sorry for that.

BTW, I did google Brooke White, and now know who she is.
So really, Cjane, you are the one that brought her to my awareness, and therefore- she should be appreciative to you.
And maybe pay you or something.

Why Mary, how did you know I was in 4th grade? Pro...

2010-08-27T11:39:58.507-06:00

Why Mary, how did you know I was in 4th grade?
Probably CJane. She gives out info like that to people.
I'm gonna go tell my mom.

Haha, I love your "I am c jane and I forgive ...

2010-08-27T10:19:43.845-06:00

Haha, I love your "I am c jane and I forgive BUT I NEVER FORGET!!!" line. You're awesome.

I used to watch the soaps when I was in High schoo...

2010-08-27T09:14:07.357-06:00

I used to watch the soaps when I was in High school. They are so stupid to me now and I can't believe I used to watch them. (Even though I have caught a few minutes of one I had not seen in years and could still follow the story line)

But now I read the comment section of your blog for my old soaps addiction. I am entertained daily by this secret little drama between all these people that don't know each other who feel powerful behind a computer.

I read your blog for the good. And the comment section for the Drama that it seems to inspire. Very funny!

Keep on keeping on!

I never said you shouldn't have posted the vid...

2010-08-27T08:58:05.961-06:00

I never said you shouldn't have posted the video. Honestly I thought the video was a great personal way to get the word out about her cancellation and offer her apologies. What I was commenting on is what you called "the humorous way you did it" because I saw it as more mockery than humorous. Maybe you meant it to be humorous, but the fact that you called her "video" lame, makes me think not. But I obviously am not you, and do not know. So if you really did not mean to mock her then hey, my mistake.

And about how you handle comments, you are correct. I definitely don't know what you do or do not allow. I only read comments every now & then. However I did read the comments where you were being harassed before they were deleted and the post you wrote afterwords. Hence my surprise at how the comments here seems to be purposely making her feel bad when they once were all about not judging someone you do not know.

And I'd respond to your last point when you said "And you calling...it looks bad" but I'm not sure what you mean.

And Carrot Jello, the pun is definitely a cute one. But I am little surprised...I haven't had anyone make that joke since the 4th grade.

Well, I am sorry to say that I won't be there ...

2010-08-26T23:23:39.990-06:00

Well, I am sorry to say that I won't be there because I live states away, but I am a fan of Brook White and I am also sorry that your concert series will be Brookless.

I wish her the best of luck,and to me, she looked more uncomfortable than "lame" or "insincere" at having to break the date.

I applaud her for giving making a video at all and for sending it to you to post.

I love your humor, and I think some people just miss it sometimes. If their sense of humor is of a different type, it can cause crossed wires at the best of times...even more so in text, I think. Take it from someone whose humor has oft been mistaken for bristly seriousness.

And don't be so hard on "Mary Matt" ...

2010-08-26T23:07:15.640-06:00

And don't be so hard on "Mary Matt"
Don't you know she has silver buttons (buttons, buttons) up and down her back (back, back)?
Now that's rough.
Literally.

"But people don't know who you are Carrot...

2010-08-26T23:05:01.417-06:00

"But people don't know who you are Carrot!"
Well, I have no idea who Brooke White.
I rest my case.

I know what you're trying to do. O.k., I will...

2010-08-26T23:03:47.983-06:00

I know what you're trying to do.
O.k., I will headline for you. All you had to do was ask.
I think I'll start out with "Feelings" and bring up the end with my own special version of "Sweet Child Of Mine."
You? are welcome.
Have your people call my people.
Oh wait, I don't have any people.
Have your people get me some people.
Then, when they're finished, have your people contact my people.

Well, the video might be a little lame, but her ha...

2010-08-26T22:49:56.205-06:00

Well, the video might be a little lame, but her hair looks great!

This kind of thing happens all the time where peop...

2010-08-26T21:35:42.837-06:00

This kind of thing happens all the time where people get better offers elsewhere and cancel. However, most people do not broadcast to the public at large that they got a better offer and would rather take their business elsewhere.

I do not know this person but her behavior strikes me of an unpolished immature singer/businesswoman. I do not know that forgiveness is the issue here. You just need to decide if you want to do business with someone who is unreliable. I would not because I could not trust the person.